
Wow, taking your car without permission is stealing.
Hookah is illegal if not 18.
He needs consequences for all he is doing.
You are gonna have your hands full if you don't get him down to earth and back in middle school mode.
I guess I was lucky my girls always acted their age. They are adults now, 19 and 22.

Sit down w/ him and lay out the age-appropriate rules. Tell him the consequences for breaking the rules, and consistently follow through w/ it. He will test you and push you on it. Stay strong and consistent and he will eventually get the message.

Hit the brakes!!! He is heading for trouble. He needs to be with kids his own age, not older kids who are stealing your car and hanging out at hookah lounges. Tell him No. Limit his time with these 'older friends' and supervise when they are together. He is too young for girlfriends, too.

Quoting boys2men2soon:Hit the brakes!!! He is heading for trouble. He needs to be with kids his own age, not older kids who are stealing your car and hanging out at hookah lounges. Tell him No. Limit his time with these 'older friends' and supervise when they are together. He is too young for girlfriends, too.

I agree.
What consequences is his receiving for his behavior? When and how is he hanging out with the older teens, are they neighborhood kids?
Quoting wakymom:Sit down w/ him and lay out the age-appropriate rules. Tell him the consequences for breaking the rules, and consistently follow through w/ it. He will test you and push you on it. Stay strong and consistent and he will eventually get the message.

I agree with this too. I also want to know what consequences you've given him for his actions so far.
Quoting bizzeemom2717:
I agree. What consequences have you given him for his actions so far? Sounds like they might not be working and you have to change things up
Quoting boys2men2soon:Hit the brakes!!! He is heading for trouble. He needs to be with kids his own age, not older kids who are stealing your car and hanging out at hookah lounges. Tell him No. Limit his time with these 'older friends' and supervise when they are together. He is too young for girlfriends, too.


Good for you Mom!
I would also find him some age appropriate acceptable activities. If he is in football now, and hat is something you can hold over him, great. What will happen when football is over? Is he into other sports?
You might consider seeing if they have an Antler program at your Elks lodge - there aren't many but we have one that my boys are in and it is AweSOME! It is for kids age 12 -20 so there are older kids that could be a POSITIVE influence on your son. It is a service and social group. the kids get to use the back room at the elks lodge (pool tables, Slider shuffle board, Wii, Darts, Poker, etc but supervised by adults and also do service in the community. Running the Haunted house, Christmas party and helping out at many other events through the year.
My oldest son also does Tenn Court - juvenile non-violent offenders are given the option to go to city court instead of the actual police criminal juvenile system and other teens sit on the jury and dole out the punishments. It is really interesting. the offenders and their parents appear, the jury can ask questions and then deliberate. they can have them do counseling, write reports, even require the offender to volunteer in the court. It is very effective in our area.

Quoting jenny3344:
The older teens he hangs around with mostly live in our apt complex.
Looks like you are trying .Hope it works.Is there any way you can add some positive reinforcement to the mix with kids in his age range ?Plan something he likes to do with a friend his age take them someplace they like ...a movie,lazer quest something to reinforce his age group.The way from his current restrictions is to hang and behave age appropriately type stuff.
No curfew ROFL in seventh ....my kids have curfew till the summer after senior year ,I feel like they are going to college so but they let me know when they will be home .Plus stay out too late no breaks on the next day.
- jenny3344
on Oct. 26, 2013 at 9:57 AM