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15-Year-Old Girl Runs Away With 37-Year-Old 'Love of Her Life'

Posted by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 11:33 AM
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15-Year-Old Girl Runs Away With 37-Year-Old 'Love of Her Life'

by Emily Abbate

holding handsAs much as they think they know it all, teenagers are just learning all there is to know about life. That includes what it means to really, really care about someone. Fifteen-year-old Emily Lalinsky was convinced that 37-year-old Robert Messer was the "love of her life." Messer, who has been a friend of Lalinksy's family for years now, and Lalinsky disappeared this past Sunday, leaving behind a note expressing their love for each other worrying both of their families. Police confirm today that the missing couple has been found safe and they were transported to separate hospitals to be treated for self-inflicted wounds.

One has to ask -- how close were Messer and Lalinsky before they fled together, and how could Lalinksy's mother Lisa Schwartz not be concerned? Schwartz told a local news outlet that since her daughter doesn't have a father-figure in her life, she entrusted that role to her friend.

A family friend she trusted. Now, a family friend who manipulated her daughter.

Schwartz told a local news outlet:

With me having so many kids I could not just take her and do things with her. So he was like "I’ll take her to Ann Arbor, I’ll take her to Botanical Gardens."

Even so, this is never something Emily's mother could have saw coming. All this mother wanted was for her daughter to have that father figure. Because she didn't know of Messer's potential ulterior motives, she was probably thankful to have him take her to do the things she wanted.

But Emily and Robert's running away together, I can only imagine it felt like betrayal. I can only imagine how scary it is to think of your young daughter being taken advantage of because she didn't know any better. The most heartbreaking part for Schwartz? The "goodbye" letter by her daughter:

Try not to be sad and don't blame yourself. Nothing could be done, I love you.

Love. If only Emily Lalinsky knew that someone who truly loves you would never EVER make you leave your family at age 15. Someone who loves you wouldn't want you to piss away your future. 

Would you be surprised if Emily's mother blames herself for this?

by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 11:33 AM
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atlmom2
by Susie on Nov. 1, 2013 at 12:12 PM

Terrible.  These predators are everywhere. 

Her Mom should not blame herself.  Wonder if he found her online??

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fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Nov. 1, 2013 at 12:39 PM

 No she should not blame herself, but should be on her guard from now on.

boys2men2soon
by Kimberly on Nov. 1, 2013 at 9:13 PM

No, it would not surprise me.   I'm sure her Mom is thinking she missed the Red Flags.   Hindsight is 20/20.




mumsy2three
by Shauna on Nov. 1, 2013 at 9:54 PM

Mom shouldn't blame herself though she probably will. She should blame the predator who influenced her dd into thinking they were in love.

jojo_star
by on Nov. 2, 2013 at 12:55 AM

No, I wouldn't be surprised, she will blame herself, but it isn't her fault. My father's good friend, whom I had known since I was a baby, raped me repeatedly when I was 12 years old. No one suspected, because he was such a close friend, and I'd been alone with him often, he was my god-father and we all loved and trusted him. My mother still blames herself, even though I've told her time and again it wasn't her fault. She had no idea anything was wrong, because I didn't say anything. This girl is lucky. My parents found out about what had been going on when they found out I was pregnant. 

Some times, you the people you trust most are monster you'd never suspect. It doesn't make as bad people, just human. 

drfink
by Emily on Nov. 2, 2013 at 3:22 PM

No this mother should not blame her self.Predators work on grooming kids.Put a lot of effort in to the process.

gonecrazi
by on Nov. 2, 2013 at 4:17 PM

 I can see how she would, but she shouldn't. They were both taken advantage of.

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