My son wants to leave college...not sure how to handle this...
My son is a first semester freshman at a college about 6 hours away from home.
He had struggled a bit in HS and I was hesitant to let him go so far away...but he was adament that this was the place for him.
He has been very bad at communicating while he has been away. He has called home infrequently and has always told me that everything is fine.
About two weeks ago he told me that he was feeling down. (He has suffered from depression before. We had spoken about this issue many times before he went away and he had agreed to seek counseling if he started to feel bad.) I reminded him to go to the couseling center and he said he would. I followed-up with him a few days later and he said he was feeling better, but hadn't been to a counselor...I urged him again to go.
This week he called me and told me that he wants to leave school. He claims to be feeling fine, but has just realized that school is not for him right now. He is willing to come home and get a job. he wants to save money to do some traveling and consider going back to school at a later date. On the one hand this seems reasonable, why waste the time and money if he is not going to do well and doesn't have any direction? On the other hand, I don't really feel like he has given this his best shot and maybe I should try to force him to continue.
Any moms out there who have been through this? what did you do?