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My son just turned 20. Here is what I have learned.

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My son has just turned 20 and so we have aged out of this group. Here is what I have learned through the teen years.

No teen is all good or all bad (though my son was more toward the bad end of the spectrum). Get to know your kids' friends (especially if they are bad). That way, when you are looking for your kid at one in the morning they will tell you where he is.

Don't let school suck the creativity out of your kid. In the real world we are not asked to sit for hours writing an exam. We are allowed to ask for help, look things up and work as a team.

Sometimes kids need help finding their way. Teach them how to job search, help them write their resumes and take them to places you know may hire them.

Don't be in a rush for them to find their life long career in high school. It's not the end of the world if they don't graduate on time either. Encourage them to try different things, you may be surprised at where they end up and what they are good at and enjoy. If they are not "academics" they are still valuable human beings.

Keep in mind that they are sneaky...if you think it's their friend john texting them be aware it may be their friend kate (they are the ones who have put names to the numbers in their phones) . Also, if you think you have all of their passwords for facebook remember they can open another facebook account under a pseudonym.

And lastly, this too shall pass. Just stick by them, support them, and know that at the other end is an adult that went through a lot of crap as a teen and you couldn't be more proud of the person they have become.


by on Dec. 19, 2013 at 12:04 PM
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by Queen25Princes on Dec. 19, 2013 at 9:33 PM
Thank you for sharing.
by on Dec. 20, 2013 at 7:09 AM

Quoting OvrMyHead:

 Thanks!!  I like the part about reminding us that not all kids are academics.

by on Dec. 20, 2013 at 9:51 AM

high fiveAmen sister!

by on Dec. 20, 2013 at 9:51 AM


by on Dec. 20, 2013 at 10:34 AM

This is a good post and great advice

by on Dec. 20, 2013 at 12:35 PM

This is the truth! And more! My son turned 20 last year. He's an amazing young adult. He did a summer of firefighting after he graduated, worked 2 jobs all this past summer, put himself through education classes and just got offered a job with the school district! He didn't cause much trouble in HS, instead, was QB of the football team, and made A's and B's, Prom King, etc., but did have some rough relationships, bad apples come into his life who tried to lure him into the party life. He's finally pulled away from all of that, and now finding direction and a solid footing in his life. I thank God for my kids and pray over them daily.

by Bronze Member on Dec. 20, 2013 at 5:52 PM

 Good advice...

by on Dec. 20, 2013 at 6:43 PM

Quoting createive:

Good one! Thanks for th einsight. DD is 15 and we're going though some of the things you shared. It's nice to hear things like this from another parent who's gone through some of these things!

I agree, my oldest is 26 now, he barely graduated high school, failed out of his freshman year of college, but went to community college and got all A's.  He has become a carpenter apprentice.  His brother 23, did better in HS. but went right into the Marines. Today I read on facebook from his wife who said he was at class, but I had not heard that before, what class? last I heard he was looking for a job.  Funny, he was always a mumbler until about a month ago, he found out they are expecting their first baby and the mumble has gone.  My dd just turned 13.

by on Dec. 29, 2013 at 6:56 PM
It helps me to see the light at the end of
by Donnie's Mom on Dec. 29, 2013 at 7:54 PM
I love this post. Great advice.
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