Nearly 13 and hiding a school BF, skipping classes, oh my...
My daughter is only 12 1/2 years old, 7th grade. We monitor her e-mail and text messages and have found that while she was at her father's house, she exchanged many e-mails with a boy with lots of "I love you's".
Our rule is no school BF's until the 8th grade and if they want to hang out, then it will be parent supervised. Car dates will be allowed at 16. That said, she is not telling us the truth abou this boy. Her report card came in the mail and I've discovered many absences that shouldn't be there - therefore it appears she's skipping a few classes.
I do not want her to know that her e-communications are being monitored, but I do want to sit her down and have a talk about honesty and sharing. My ex-husband and I plan on doing this together, which will be very unusuall for us to do with her.
I am expecting her to lie and tell us there's nothing she's hiding. My quesiton is, how to I get a child who once shared everything with me, to open up again?
My instinct is to attach, but I know that won't do a bit of good.