I have a 16 son who for the most part is a good fellow and it really makes it hard for me to discipline him sometimes because of that reason. He is notorious for forgetting chores, half doing things so that someone else finishes them, wanting to spend all his time on his game system and not doing his schoolwork. But even so he is pretty easy going, considerate, and thoughtful. The other part of it all he and my husband (who is not his biological but did adopt him) butt heads a lot usually over chores not getting done. I have taken away all electronics for months on end and taken away his allowance. The latest is that he was told that if he didn't keep up with his chores he was going to loose out on a chance to go to a special event with his father and uncle plus his chance to go on the family vacation later this year. Well once again chores get lost to sitting like a zombie in front of the tv, so he did not get to go to the special event. I spent time talking with him and explaining why he had to deal with the consequences, He tells me to my face that he understands the cause and effect and that he will straighten up. (i have heard this I know hundreds of times the past few years) Then I told him he was on a hairs breath of loosing out on vacation to his favorite location. He forgets his chores again. Now I struggle with following through with leaving him behind with his grandmother. Part of me says it is too harsh but then the other half says I have to follow through or otherwise loose respect.