My 10th grade girl is smart, pretty, a cheerleader, and soccer player. She has gone from wanting to be an ob/gyn (last fall) to wanting to move in with her best friend as soon as she turns 18 and working as a cosmotologist. I don't have a problem with the cosmostology thing, but I know that very few make a comfortable living. I do have a problem with her desire to move in with the friend--she will not be out of h.s. yet and the girl has yet to complete the 8th grade (due to illness--mostly invented from what I can tell). The friend is sweet, but I don't see her ever being able to support herself. She comes from a faith that does not seem to encourage women to fulfill their full potential--they should all be stay-at-home mothers and say 'yes' and 'no' to their husbands, and never have a thought of their own. Nothing wrong with the stay-at-home mom part, but the rest of it isn't good! The girl's older sister went wild when she got out of the house--drinking, living with a drug-dealing boyfriend, etc. The friend and my daughter seem to have decided that the sister has a great lifestyle (now that she isn't with the boyfriend anymore).
She has been friend's with this girl since they were small. They are family of kind and helpful people. Short of sending my daughter to an all-girl boarding school, I am at a loss. btw, we can't afford an all girl boarding school.
This is all compounded by the fact that her father has, for a very long time, tried to undermind me as a parent (even before the divorce was final). His take is that she should live with him in another town and county (where crime is on the rise and teenage pregnancy is rampant) --a small, farming town. She doesn't want this and, I believe, it has added to the idea of moving in with the friend.
The plan is to live in the grandfather's home (he is in poor health and needs someone there most of the time). Work as a cosmotogist. And do whatever she pleases while she finishes high school.
Could sure use some input.