my dd 13 yr old is in 8th grade. Let me start off by saying she is the sweetest, kindest friend anyone could ask for. She would do anything for her friends yet is getting stepped all over. There are two groups of girls that are now sort of combinding together. Girls that didnt hang out together are now doing that and the lunch table changes daily. This one girl who was her best friend since kindergarten completely dropped her and has bullied her this year and we feel has turned all these girls against her and basically what happens is that when they make plans she makes sure my DD is not included.
I will start by saying PLEASE DONT TELL ME TO TELL HER TO FIND NEW FRIENDS THAT IS NOT AN OPTION ! The problem is that my daughter is basically too nice and is being pushed around by the girls - .what I mean is that she very rarely gets invited to do things unless she makes the initial plans, SHe thinks they are all her best friends, yet with all these stupid online websites (instagram,ask.fm etc...) Im seeing that they dont think of her that way. I know that 8th grade is a horrible year of Middle school and it will get better but i feel so bad for her. She is very active outside of school doing this (sports, babysitting etcc.)
She has confronted them before about excluding her and telling them how she feels, yet they become defensive and turn it around to almost make it look like its my daughter and say its no big deal. She has been telling me its not big deal and she will deal with it until HS starts next year and things will change. However tonight she told me out right she is miserable and feels like she has no friends at all. What do I do I feel absolutely horrible for her.