My SS16 has never been an angel and although we'd love to trust him, he has learned how to be deceitful and manipulative by some of his smarter and more experienced friends. You know the ones, who have learned the art of twisting the truth to get their way. Who tell their trusting parents they are spending the night at one friends house so they can go out with some unapproved friend and stay out all night.
DH and I have been fighting against this for the past couple of years, but it's exhausting. First we require that we speak to the parents of every friend SS has over or spends time with so we can always close the loop in information. For example, if SS asks to sleep over a friends house, we always contact that friends house to make sure they are aware of this and set any guidelines. Then we let SS know that we can and will I contact the parents to check on them. I know this may sound overprotective but we just want our kids to stay safe.
The other day SS told us this sob story so that his friend could come over (when SS was grounded and not allowed to see his friends). He tried to make it sound like his friends parents weren't home and she was scared to be alone and could she come over until her parents got home. Not wanting to be heartless, DH started to say okay, but I let SS know we were going to call her parents to find out when they would be home. Before I could call SS back pedaled and said his friend texted and said her brother was on his way home and that she no longer needed to come over. Sometimes I get so exhausted trying to stay one step ahead.
Does anyone have any other tricks or tips to stay one step ahead of these plotting teens?