So my oldest (a Junior) has had a crush on a boy since the beginning of the year. Back then, he acted as if he liked her and told a couple of friends he was thinking of asking her to Homecoming. Then suddenly this 'Other Girl' that he has supposedly had a thing for for a long time started showing interest in him. So he asked Other Girl to Homecoming and they started dating.
DD was a good sport and just moved on and continued to be friends with the boy (she hangs out socially on occasion with him and Other Girl, but does not particularly care for her, as she is the type to be gossipy and speak ill of others). A couple of weeks ago, Other Girl dumped boy, saying he 'didn't make enough time for her.'
Boy almost immediately started texting DD 24x7, walking her to all of her classes, flirting a lot and asking if she wants to 'hang out' on the weekend (she said no the that last one b/c she was worried about being a 'rebound'). They see Other Girl in the hallways and she glares at DD. This goes on for about a week and a half; then all of a sudden, DD hears that Other Girl is telling the boy that she misses him and wants him back. DD asks boy how he feels about this and what he plans to do with the information, and he says 'I don't know.'
Next day at school, boy doesn't walk DD to any of her classes, hardly speaks to her, and she hasn't heard from him via text since. Looks like he is getting back together with Other Girl, and it very much APPEARS that he may have used DD to make Other Girl jealous.
I feel just terrible for DD. I'm sure she now feels rejected not just once, but twice by the same boy. And it only makes matters worse that the girl he is choosing over her is simply not a nice person. Perhaps some boys are also attracted to 'bad girls', the same as girls are attracted to 'bad boys'? He even told DD it drove him crazy that Other Girl flirted with other guys all the time.
I wish DD didn't feel the need to always have attention from a boy, but no matter what I say, she always seeks it out. I swear it must be a personality trait...I've never been that way, neither is my younger daughter. Anyway I wish there was something I could do or say to make her feel better. Teenage life can really suck sometimes!
Thanks for listening. :)