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Do YOU Think It is Okay For an Adult to Attend Prom with a Teenager?

Posted by on Mar. 3, 2014 at 2:32 PM
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​NFL Cheerleader Accepts High Schooler's Prom Invite & Creeps Out Moms

by Lisa Fogarty 

It's become pretty common for high school students to post cutesy messages on their Twitter accounts asking celebrities to their proms. In the case of Miley Cyrus, the 21-year-old knew it would be bananas for her to show up at a dance and sweetly invited her suitor to attend one of her concerts instead, which was a really smart move on her part. Err, I'm thinking pro Houston Texans cheerleader Caitlyn, who is 20, figured she was being a sweetheart as well by responding to 17-year-old Michael Ramirez's online request that she be his hot date to the Crosby High School senior prom. Only she agreed to go. As his actual date. And no matter how platonic we know this whole night will be, there's something a little creepy about it.

Michael, who plays football at his Texas high school, sent Caitlyn a direct message through Twitter that read: "If I get 10,000 retweets will you go to the prom with me you will get asked in a cute way!" She responded, "Of course I will" and his adorable reply? "Alrighttt!" with a smiley face.

He then tweeted to his universe of followers: "10,000 Retweets and I'll be taking a texans cheerleader to prom. RETWEET RETWEET RETWEET"

Michael got the number of re-posts he needed in under 24 hours, which is sweet in a lot of ways. He's adorable for asking her out and what high school senior wouldn't want to be seen with a gorgeous cheerleader?

But the cheerleader in question is a full-fledged adult. And, if the tables were turned and we were witnessing a teen girl try to secure a date with, say, a 20-year-old college football player, I'm not sure how many of us would feel comfortable with that. As a parent, I don't think I'd be overjoyed that my son were taking a woman to his prom, either.

There's no doubt in my mind that this is as innocent as it gets and that Caitlyn is a really lovely young woman. She told KHOU that she just wants Michael to have a good time at his prom and that she's "thrilled" her job allows her to "make his prom dreams come true." But has she considered the possibility that she's opening herself up to some potentially awkward and even incriminating circumstances? I don't know how wise it is to take that chance.

I guess the positive in all this is that Michael has learned a good lesson about perseverance. But here's hoping this trend of teens asking adults to their proms tapers off sooner rather than later.

Do you think it's okay for an adult to attend prom with a teenager?

by on Mar. 3, 2014 at 2:32 PM
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mommyofthezoo03
by Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 4:48 PM

If it were a case like that I would be ok. It would be a huge deal for the date to be a celebrity. Now, if it was some random adult, no. Adult being someone who is more than 2 yrs older the the student. I woudl be fine with a 20 yr old taking a 18 yr old sr if they were dating.

                                   

handy0318
by Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 4:53 PM

Why would there be anything "incriminating" about it? There is nothing illegal or even immoral for a 17 to dance with a 20 year old.

Lighten up! This will be a memory for this kid and even his entire class for years to come. 

Now, if she's stupid enough to get him drunk and have sex with him in the back of the limo...but I highly doubt that.

SweetOrangeMama
by Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 4:55 PM
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At my daughter's school, juniors & seniors are the ones invited to prom. They may invite a date, no younger than freshman (no junior high students) and no older than 22. The dates invited that are not in our high school must be approved by the principal. I honestly don't have an issue with it.
wakymom
by Silver Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 4:56 PM

 I don't think our h.s. even allows them to bring a date who is an adult, no matter how famous that adult may be.

 

 

 

littlelamb303
by Member on Mar. 3, 2014 at 4:58 PM

oh my.  I know who this young lady is , not personally though. .  She was heavily involved in pageants as a child and still competes in the Miss Texas USA system. .  What I don't understand is why she is doing this?    I hope she does not let him down.

SourRoses
by on Mar. 3, 2014 at 5:01 PM
I agree with this

Quoting mommyofthezoo03:

If it were a case like that I would be ok. It would be a huge deal for the date to be a celebrity. Now, if it was some random adult, no. Adult being someone who is more than 2 yrs older the the student. I woudl be fine with a 20 yr old taking a 18 yr old sr if they were dating.

atlmom2
by Susie on Mar. 3, 2014 at 6:01 PM
Nice, just like when adult celebrities accept the invite. It is innocent. They will not be getting a hotel room after.
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Niccalyn
by Bronze Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 11:51 AM
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I don't actually see a problem here?  Chances are the boy will be 18, or very close to it, by the time prom comes around, making him an adult too.  At my kids' HS, you can't bring anyone over the age of 21 to a school dance.  So she is still 'legal' as far as Prom Law is concerned.  I'm actually a little uncomfortable with the thought that people are reading so much into this...?  I hope they have a wonderful time, and that the boy has a great story to tell his children and grandchildren one day.

8chickens
by Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 4:57 PM

17 and 20 not that big of deal. He is also a senior a young adult himself. People forget there are adults attending high schools, many soon to be or are 18+_.


lucky2Beeme
by Gold Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 7:27 PM

If they are 21 or less sure. If its MOM or Dad NOoooooo. Prom for students no one wants an adult there.

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