I am trying a new approach to my dd13 grades. Nothing is working. At this point I am putting in about 80% effort to her 20%. We stripped her room. We have removed every privelege imaginable. We have offered rewards. We have sat with her. We have yelled. We have praised. We have spoken with teachers, guidance counselors and principals. We check her grades daily. We have her on ADD meds and tutoring. Nothing is working. So yesterday, after I discovered that she failed yet another spelling test as well as a math test and a science quiz, I took her out for the day. Over lunch I told her that we were giving her everythign back. Phone, tv, laptop, freedom, etc. Told her I am no longer going to be a helicopter parent with schoolwork. It isn't working anyway. It is now all up to her. Natural consequences be her guide. She freaked the heck out. She started crying right there in the restaurant. She said that I seemed so disappointed in her. I am. She begged me to ground her, take her things anything but this. I assured her that it isn't because I don't care but rather because I feel I care more than her. Lets see if this works. She is a difficult one to get through.