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You wont BELIEVE what I found on my sons phone!

Posted by on Mar. 16, 2014 at 1:14 PM
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I can understand porn. Regular porn. I am not surprised that my teen has seen porn. BUT what I found both shocked and sickened me. I went through his history on Google and he has been looking at GORY porn. Weird s**t. Like a woman who had to get a dildo surgically removed. And another woman who had a pole in her "stuff" that came out her mouth like she was on a bbq spit. I mean, seriously GROSS stuff. WHAT DO I DO WITH THIS??!!?? Do I talk to him, tell him not to look at that kind of stuff? Do I talk to him, or should my dh? Im the one he talks to about girls...not my dh. Who should approach him and what should we sau? Im nervous about what thesr pictures may mean. Hes a great kid tho. No major disrespectful issues or anything. HELP!!!
by on Mar. 16, 2014 at 1:14 PM
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by Susie on Mar. 16, 2014 at 5:52 PM
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Oh, you gotta address this. Counseling if need be to bring him into reality.
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by Bronze Member on Mar. 16, 2014 at 6:29 PM

Okay I like kinky porn but christ that is just...christ

I would address it. maybe your husband first. Dont think you can just issue a blanket ban it may direct him more towards it. It would have to be a discussion

by on Mar. 16, 2014 at 6:53 PM

It might have been on a link sent to him, boys can be gross. I would be careful approaching the subject 

by on Mar. 16, 2014 at 6:55 PM

You want to find out if he thinks this is normal so that you chose the correct course of action , so done could have been trying to freak him out. How many of us had older kids telling us weird things about sex before we actually were active? Kids have access to a lot of info today.

by on Mar. 16, 2014 at 8:02 PM

How old is he? The older he is the harder it will be to try anything about it? You should talk to a pro yourself to get ideas before you even approach him. This could backfire on you so quickly as you were not only snooping on his phone but may have came across a fetish etc that he expects to be secret. I talked to DH and he said he has seen allot of porn etc.. but has no knowledge of anything beyond fantasy S&M , B&D. This is some wierd mutalation thing.

by on Mar. 17, 2014 at 1:24 AM
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Maybe he found it by accident....or maybe he likes that gross gory cousin looks at this website where they show like dead bodies and crime scenes and all kinds of gross stuff....and she's not crazy or a killer or whatever....that kinda stuff just might interest him....who knows. I find it weird but some people are just like that. Just come out and ask him if he's OK.
by on Mar. 17, 2014 at 3:32 PM

Why don't parents just speak openly with their kids anymore?

Just talk to him. Damn. And parents wonder why their kids don't talk to them.

by on Mar. 17, 2014 at 4:38 PM

About a year ago, I did the same thing except the porn was child porn and beastiality. He had barely opened the website when he closed it back down again. So the first thing I would look at is, how long he was on the site. If he was on it a while then the next step is to talk to him about it.

When I talked to my kid, I asked him why he was looking at porn in the first place. He was just curious about sex and how it was done. We had a long talk about porn. I explained to him that many porn stars have their bodies altered so he wasn't getting a very accurate picture. The talk covered things like how porn can de-sensitise you and make climaxing harder to achieve, that the real act doesn't always look like it's portrayed in the movie, porn addiction, how porn is notorious for viruses, the legalities of child porn and that it was all his decision because I couldn't stop him. 

He has not looked at porn since then. He also feels it is degrading to all parties and to an act that should be something special.

by on Mar. 17, 2014 at 5:50 PM
Maybe he saw them as a joke?
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