DH and I have always let our kids know that we believe it is not smart to get a tattoo as a young person. Not to offend anyone who is a fan of tattoos, but we are oppposed to them for religious reasons as well as the fact that we feel they can be an obstacle to future employment, and generally don't look as good when you're 60 as they did when you were 18. And they are not easy to 'un-do'!
So my oldest DD (17) and I were talking last night and out of the blue she tells me she wants 5 tattoos. Small and in not-too-obvious places. In the past she has always said she will never get a tattoo, although she's a fan of temporary and henna tattoos (I have no problem with that). I asked her when she plans to get these tattoos and she says "Soon...ish?" (She will be 18 in December, and we plan to send her to college the following fall.) We talked about it a little more and I finally told her she is free to do what she likes when she is on her own and paying her own way, but as long as we are still supporting her, she needs to abide by our wishes and refrain from getting permanent markings on her body (I am not opposed to piercings and she does have her ears double pierced and may get more; I also have no problem with 'different' hair colors/cuts). She gave me a somewhat smirky little smile at that point, which I interpreted as 'What are you gonna do about it?' so I said, "Just remember that WE own your iphone and your car, and there can be consequences for doing things that displease us." She looked somewhat stricken at that point, then smiled a little more sincerely and said Okay. Then we said goodnight. She seemed fine this morning.
Do you think I handled that okay? Did I go overboard or should I have been more forceful? Do you think there is anything else I should say to her?