The family has had enough and everyone is in agreement. My son is moving out next month. He turns 18 and for his birthday we are giving him his "freedom". With all the trouble he's been getting into with stealing, getting suspended, lieing, anger problems, etc. we simply can no longer handle it.
We told him that he needs to find someplace to live by his birthday. I talked to the school to determine what would happen when he moves and if I know ahead of time where he's going we (the other adult) can go with me to the school and it's just paperwork. If I don't do that he is unenrolled when I call up there and say he's moved with no forwarding address. I was told most people would not even continue school at that point because it is very difficult to re-enroll then. I have been pressuring him to find someplace to go.
He has talked to relatives several times and has not asked them anything about living with him. He informed me he wasn't going to. He was going to ask his friends but it's been almost 2 months and he hasn't asked anyone. I have no idea what he's going to do.
It's not just about the fact that he's been doing all this, it's about his little sister who is sick. Stress makes things worse on her, even little stress that we can't control (such as the pollen is too high to go outside). The stress he brings to the table with the constant negativity, the constant bickering has caused her to go into the hospital twice. I'm being told by police that the day he turns 18 if he does it he can go to jail for child abuse and I can go to jail for contributing to child abuse if he ends up in the hospial again.
He has been doing this since BEFORE she got sick. This is not a result of her getting sick. He has been seen by many therapists and mental professionals and been evaulated 3 seperate times in 3 seperate ways. He does NOT have a mental problem or if he does he does not permit professionals to see it and refuses to go to therapy now because he's "not sick".
So I guess I told you all of this because I worry about him but know what needs to be done. Has anyone else had a situation like this that turned out good?