My brother is practically a high-school-dropout. He won't go to school because he stays up until the wee hours smoking pot and playing xbox, and sleeps in until 4 in the afternoon. Instead of oh, say, tossing his room for pot-smoking paraphernalia, taking away his xbox, and actually being INVOLVED in his schooling, my mom basically pulled him out of school and enrolled him in some "Online Virtual Academy" BS which he is failing at. Miserably. For (you guessed it) missing "classes" and not handing in work! Last I checked, his semester GPA (not his actual GPA, but it wouldn't be surprising if it was, considering he's missed most of the last 3 years of school) is 0.6. Ugh
My mom is also very "trusting" to say the least. If she asks my brother if he got his schoolwork done and he says "yeah" she'll believe him. She also continues to finance his pot smoking habit. My brother will say "I need money for Taco Bell/Burger King/a movie" and she'll fork over the money, stupidly believing him. We have had to change our garage door code more than once because of his scumbag friends.
In short, my mother is just too soft and lax as a parent. She's more eager to be his friend rather than his parent. One of the reasons I think she refuses to discipline him is because of the time he had a (thankfully ex-)girlfriend over who had run away from home, resulting in the police coming to our door. Mom decided to punish my brother for this by taking the door off of his basement bedroom. He retaliated by taking moms bedroom door off. 2 weeks later BOTH doors are back.
I don't know what to do. I want to help my brother become a successful human being; but then again "I'm not the parent". Well shes not really doing anything either.
Advice?? Other than calling the police (because mom would just bail him out; placing financial burden on the family)
Oh, and we live in MN if that helps