First off let me say we feed our children, we had a problem with SS making people think we didn't have money to feed them. We have a strict budget & don't always have lots of extra food, but my children have never went to bed hungry. In the past we have had government assistance & dh works hard to make sure we don't get to that point again (no offense).
When we first got SS on full time basis he was months shy of 10, he only ate chicken (mostly nugget form), ramen noodles, hot dogs, pizza basically junk type food. According to dr he was overweight, he was short & chunky. After a while I told dh I would no longer cater, my rule is if your not allergic you eat it (no allergies in my fam). When they turn 18 & buy there own food they can choose what they eat. Anyway he is now rapidly approaching 14 & has gotten tall & skinny, he still makes people think we don't feed him which is embarrassing to defend myself. He lies about most things to the point we believe nothing he says. Our problem is he sneaks food constantly, he is so obvious about it, but we feel our portions are fine, on the other hand, he will eat until he literally makes himself sick if we give him free range. He has admitted that he does this as recently as Memorial Day at a family gathering, but I don't usually say anything in front of mil because she jumps done my throat. I've tried to explain to him that he doesn't need myself or his father to tell him he is full (you can see it in his face), his brain tells him. He has snuck food to the point that he has aten enough meat that it could have been lunch for all 4 of us, which is usually what leftovers become. I try to meal plan & ingredients will be gone. It's to the point that he isn't allowed downstairs without one of us for more then a few minutes. We have physically seen him eat food when he was suppose to be putting it away & he still denies it. He has even blamed it on his 2 yr old sister who can't even get in kitchen because there is a gate. Any suggests on what to do?
meal examples (whole fam eats same):
Breakfast could be a bowl of cereal to eggs, pancakes, potatoes, meat, etc
Lunch could be anything from ramen noodles (whole pkg) to sandwich w/ apple sauce & chips to a full leftover meal
Dinner same as lunch basically with bigger portions
Dessert is not always given but sometimes we eat at 5 & sometime 8pm. Depending on our schedule, I usually try by 6:30
Memorial Day he ate 2 cheeseburgers, a hot dog, several deviled eggs, chips, cheese curls, a cupcake, cookies, watermelon, 2 cups of soda (which we don't give our kids a lot) all at one sitting then felt so sick he had to lay down on his cousins bed because he admits no one told him to stop eating!
UPDATE: I found a counseling place close by & he is going to start July 3.
We also had a conversation about the situation, I asked him what we can do until he meets with someone. I asked what he wants to eat & he said cereal for breakfast, pb & fluff for lunch, whatever for dinner, & a small snack like granola bar. These are his exact words. I'm confused it's less then he eats now. Then I asked when he thinks he should be able to eat, he says breakfast at 7am (he doesn't even get up that early), lunch at 12pm, dinner at 4pm, & a small snack at 7pm. Again exact words. Huh?