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What Age Should Kids Be Allowed to Attend Concerts Alone?

Posted by on Jun. 17, 2014 at 10:52 AM
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Staind's Aaron Lewis Stops Concert to Protect Kid Being Harassed in the Crowd (VIDEO)

by Lisa Fogarty

I spent a large portion of my teen years in awe of girls who were brave enough to either crowd surf or jump into the mosh pit at rock concerts. At 15, I wasn't allowed to attend concerts without an adult, but I did it anyway. And though I wished I was more like those girls who wanted to prove they could do what all of the boys were doing, most had the same story to tell after they moshed or allowed the audience to hoist them up and pass them above the crowd like a hunk of bread: at some point, someone tried to cop a cheap feel. It was just par for the course and most girls knew it.

Apparently, Aaron Lewis, the lead singer of the band Staind, knows it too. At a recent show as part of Rockfest 2014, he called some of the guys in the crowd "pieces of s**t" for "molesting" a girl who looked to be 15 as she crowd surfed. An extreme (but awesome) reaction? Perhaps. But Lewis' message serves as a reminder to parents that concerts are NOT places for young teens.

Lewis actually threatened to call out the boys (men?) who had felt up the young girl, and even went as far as to say he would beat them up if they did it again. Rather than leave it up to a rock singer to police what our kids are doing, parents need to understand that, with few exceptions, rock venues are not a good hang-out spot for super-young teens.

As we all know, at 14, 15, and even 16, a child's judgment is ... well, questionable. The desire to fit in or seem cool overrides mostly everything else, and few teens are going to think about the fact that moshing could result in a serious head injury, or that crowd surfing is a good way to either fall flat on your face or back OR have your privates mishandled by 25 strangers. No 15-year-old is equipped to deal with having their bodies treated that way -- hell, few adults would know what to do if that happened to them.

I can understand allowing your 17- or 18-year-old child to attend a concert IF the venue is under-21 and not serving alcohol. But at any concert in which bartenders have to check bracelets to determine who can drink: you're asking for trouble. Even if your teen has one heck of a head on his shoulders, you never know what is going to happen when you get a bunch of people together and add vodka, rock music, and a floor that becomes packed with people in minutes.

Anything can happen and it's not worth it -- no matter how great the band.

Here's a video of Lewis' tirade, which has gone viral -- it contains lots of profanity, so be careful:


At what age do you think teens should be allowed to attend rock concerts on their own?

by on Jun. 17, 2014 at 10:52 AM
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zacmacsmomm
by Bronze Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 1:38 PM

I was attending them without a parent at 15 or 16.  But the concerts I went to were arena concerts with assigned seating.  As far as my kids.  I've been taking son to concerts since he was 12, he's now 20.  I took my daughter to her first concert when she was 14

atlmom2
by Susie on Jun. 17, 2014 at 2:06 PM

16

atlmom2
by Susie on Jun. 17, 2014 at 2:08 PM

We have summerfest here in the summers.  Kids ride the bus down to summerfest.  We allowed them to go alone once they finished their freshman year of HS.  Otherwise we drove down and were on the grounds with them but they were on their own during their time there when they were in 7th or 8th grade. 

my2kidsmom9498
by Bronze Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 4:28 PM

Too many variables to say a certain age.  Depends on the who, what, where, when and the kids. 

StreetsAhead
by Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 6:21 PM
14, mainly because most venues here won't let a child go without an over 16 with them
GleekingOut
by Silver Member on Jun. 17, 2014 at 7:16 PM

I say it depends on maturity, the event itself, and the "type" of crowd there is expected to be.  But here in Australia, most concerts/summer festivals are 18+ simply because of all the stuff that goes down.

diaperstodating
by Angel on Jun. 17, 2014 at 9:38 PM

Lol I don't think any of my boys will ever be interested in attending a rock concert.


diaperstodating
by Angel on Jun. 17, 2014 at 9:39 PM

My oldest son will be 16 this month. I would consider allowing him to attend a concert alone.


jessablessa
by on Jun. 17, 2014 at 9:40 PM
When they are 18 and out of my house.
gdiamante
by Bronze Member on Jun. 18, 2014 at 12:00 AM

Same here. And I could never have hoped for my parents to take me to a concert, unless it was Frank Sinatra!

Quoting zacmacsmomm:

I was attending them without a parent at 15 or 16.  But the concerts I went to were arena concerts with assigned seating. 

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