We just recently gained a teenager. My 14 yr old cousin came to live with us in April. The whole point of her being here is to give her a better home environment and social group. Sometimes she seems happy to be here and is ok. And then we see things on fb where she tells her friends we're overprotective and she hates it here. I'm not sure whether she's just trying to keep up whatever reputation she has with her friends back home or if she's being honest with them. She tends to try to NOT have fun, even when she is. I don't get it. I guess my real question is, how do we help her figure out who SHE is, what she likes, instead of just trying to fit into whatever group she's with. One day she claims to be "emo", then she's an "atheist" but has no answers when we try to talk to her about it. Its just the way the kids she used to hang out with were.
on Jul. 11, 2014 at 4:30 PM