Every parent has a different way of going about disciplining their kids, but for some, grounding or taking away something near and dear to your misbehaving child's heart makes perfect sense. A mother from Fargo, North Dakota, named Cindy Bjerke is making headlines this week for unapologetically subscribing to that notion. As a punishment for her daughter's disrespectful behavior, the mom put her teen's Katy Perry concert tickets up for sale on the Fargo/Moorhead Online Garage Sale Facebook page. The post, which has since been deleted, read, "Spoiled brat daughter doesn't deserve these tickets."
Though Bjerke had many supporters "like" her post, others criticized the mom, saying that the punishment of her daughter should remain private. As Bjerke told the local news, "It doesn't matter what side you're on, you're always wrong to somebody." And what she was trying to do doesn't seem all that wrong at all. It's actually just something that parents do every day.
Okay, maybe not always by calling their kid out in a public forum, but Bjerke didn't refer to her daughter by name. But the bottom-line is that she took away something that her daughter had been given as a privilege. Concert tickets are something parents should feel free to take away from their teens in a heart beat. It's far from a necessity. Just like being able to watch TV or go out to the movies, going to see a concert is never a kid's right. It's a bonus, a treat, the upshot of being a good kid.
By taking something like these tickets away, you can send the message that your kid can't have her cake (misbehavior) and eat it too (get to go have fun and enjoy something reserved for kids who exhibit good behavior). You send the message that there are negative consequences to acting out of line, being disrespectful, acting spoiled and ungrateful. Whether it makes them BFFs with their moms or not, those are still tough lessons teens need to learn.
That said, critics of Bjerke may want to think twice before digging into her parenting. Perhaps airing the punishment in public wouldn't be how some moms would handle the situation, sure. But this mom didn't do anything out of line. She was only disciplining her kid in the best way she saw fit.
What do you think about what this mom did?