I am new on here and I am not sure where to turn! I have a 16 yr old boy who thnks he is running the show! It is just us in the house, no other children (he is my last). I can harldy hold a conversation with him without him completely blowing up and screaming profanity at me. He has had quite a bit of contact and interaction with his father over the years, dwindling as he becomes more difficult, and almost none this year. His dad is also a very angry man - my son won't go to counseling (I surprised him 1 time and there was hell to pay) he punches holes in my walls, is horribly verbally abusive, does whatever he wants whenever he wants. Is on the verge of dropping out of school, won't get a job, comes and goes as he pleases and I feel like I have no recourse at all! I have been guilty of losing my temper on several occasions - I can only take him screaming "you psycho fucking bitch" in my face so many times. I made a decision a few months ago that I will no longer scream or yell or slap him (did that a few times as well, always a slap ever a "hit"). I have stuck by this and refuse to yell. If I leave the house when the fighting starts he destroys walls in the house! I feel like I have given up all my principles as a parent in order to have any kind of peace and if I do end up saying anything all hell breaks loose.... I am reluctant to call the police because I don't want him to feel like I have abandonded him (like his dad apparently has). At the same time I feel like a prisoner in my own home, subject to the whims of my child. He smokes marijuana but doesn't take any other drugs - a hospital emergency confirmed this. Any advice?