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I'm not sure if i doing the right thing

Posted by on Aug. 16, 2014 at 8:11 PM
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Hi I have a 17th teenager
he stop going to school and he want do nothing
so I cut him off stop paying his cell phone n stop buying him thing I told him get a job or go back to school so he move out on me NOOO WHY ??? IDK IF IM DOING THE RIGHT THING BUT HE NEED TO LEARN
This hurt me to see him give up on his self
by on Aug. 16, 2014 at 8:11 PM
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atlmom2
by Susie on Aug. 16, 2014 at 9:04 PM

Sounds like you are doing the right thing.

ItsaJOB
by Bronze Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 10:42 PM
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You needed to stop paying his cell phone and buying him things so he sees he either has to work for them by getting a job, and then realizing what he gets paid isn't going to be enough to support himself unless he goes back to school to finish up.  Sorry this is hard on you, but he has to get some 'tough love' to see the light....

mzlisaluv
by New Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 11:54 AM
I don't know he moved out and now I worry about him

Quoting atlmom2:

Sounds like you are doing the right thing.

atlmom2
by Susie on Aug. 17, 2014 at 12:01 PM

You never stop worrying but you can't enable someone either. 

Quoting mzlisaluv: I don't know he moved out and now I worry about him
Quoting atlmom2:

Sounds like you are doing the right thing.


mzlisaluv
by New Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 12:10 PM
Thanks i try calling his dad maybe he with dad or dad family idk

Quoting atlmom2:

You never stop worrying but you can't enable someone either. 

Quoting mzlisaluv: I don't know he moved out and now I worry about him

Quoting atlmom2:

Sounds like you are doing the right thing.

Ambitious_T
by New Member on Aug. 19, 2014 at 10:12 PM
you just stopped enabling him so you did the right thing. Some teens have to fall on their butts and hit their heads in order to learn and grow. You have raised him they have to learn. Be blessed not stressed!
wakymom
by Silver Member on Aug. 20, 2014 at 9:51 AM

 You did the right thing. That does not mean that it was easy or that you will not worry about him. He needs to learn that he needs to follow your rules and go to school, or get a job to support himself.

 

 

 

iwashere
by Member on Aug. 20, 2014 at 11:58 AM

My grandmother is in her 90s and says she still worries about my dad - so you never stop worrying about your kids. But you did the right thing. He needs to hit rock bottom to appreciate all the stuff you gave him.

I'm so sorry. Teenagers can be real pains in the butt. But you are a good mom - so just worry - but know you did the right thing.

Teddybear2015
by New Member on Aug. 20, 2014 at 3:50 PM

So sorry mom this happened. But he made the choice to move out this proves he wants to make it oh his own. And of course we all parents worry about our children even when they are married with kids we still worry. I hope you hear from him soon and hope that he is ok.

kellly
by Member on Aug. 22, 2014 at 9:07 AM

It does sound like you are doing the right thing. Just pray for him and hope he returns like the prodical son, then you can open your arms, hug him and help him get back on track.

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