I am constantly having people tell me that I do too much for my daughter. Examples include running her violin to school if she forgets it, pulling out her clothes, packing her swim bag before a competition. I do the things I do because I'm a control freak. When I pull out her clothes I know she's going to wear what I like. It eliminates a potential argument or disagreement. Also she and I both suffer from anxiety and if she were to forget something important at a swim meet she would have an attack and I would get equally upset. Not so much that she's upset but I would feel like I failed as a parent and everyone is judging me. Now that she's in middle school I'm being told I need to back off. I don't disagree with this but it's really hard. My mom was a very absentee parent. I can't help but want to be the complete opposite.
Has anyone else been accused of doing too much? How did you ween yourself?
*** Telling me that I need to stop and that it's my fault my daughter has anxiety is simply stating the obvious. I am aware that I need to stop. I am aware that what I'm doing could be hindering my daughter's development and growth. I'm not trying to validate my actions. I'm not looking for anyone to say. You are fine or keep up the good work. What I want is maybe some suggestions on how to STOP. ***