I would love to get your opinions. As our kids get older, it seems that dh and I disagree more on things to do with them, especially discipline etc. He has agreed that if I post questions on here and see what other people think that it would be easier for us to get to a common ground if we have a better understanding of what other people might do. And so, I am hoping to post a number of questions with some of the conflict we have and disagreements we have about how we are raising our kids, to get opinions from other parents and hopefully that will help us have less disagreements. I understand that each family is unique but there are some times where it helps to know general opinion.
So here goes with my first question and I would love to know what you think.
My dh drinks LOT of soda! It is what he calls "healthy" soda. It is a very expensive, one dollar per can, carbonated soda sweetened with Stevia or, called Zevia. Dh says it is "healthy" and it's fine to drink unlimited amounts. He drinks between five and eight cans per day every day and has done so for over three years now. He never drinks water. The first thing he opens up as he wakes up in the morning is a can of this soda and he drinks it all day. I have given up on that battle because not only do I think it is unhealthy for him to drink so much but it is also costing us a fortune and he will absolutely not reduce the amount he drinks because he says it helps him with his weight control ......
So this is my question. Our ds has just turned 13. He models a lot of his behavior on dad. And so now he wants to wake up in the morning and drink this Zevia soda, and drink soda right before bed etc. I have tried very hard to get him to limit this soda drinking to one can per day and not in the morning or right before bed. Dh disagrees with me and says that because it is "healthy" soda that Ds should be able to drink more and there is no problem with him drinking it first thing in the morning with breakfast or as he's going to bed! I completely disagree. I have said that I think it is a bad habit to allow children to develop, drinking soda the moment they wake up and before bed. And dad is teaching him that he can use this soda for weight control! All around I think it is teaching bad habits and DH just doesn't agree with me and doesn't get it. I work VERY hard with my kids and my health and eating healthy.... and I don't mind a little soda but the first thing when waking and at bed time? And dh thinks unlimited amounts are OK.
Please help. We have many other things about raising teenagers where we disagree, this is just one of the first concrete things I thought I would ask you all about. What are your opinions? What do you allow your kids to do? My DH thinks it's all okay because it's "supposedly healthy soda".