Week 2 of Learning To Let Go / Is There Too Much Independance??
So anyone who has read my previous post already has some insight on my over controlling ways and my need for therapy. You may also know that I am trying to stop micro-managing my dd and let her become more independent. I'm very happy to report that she has made her own check list these past two days. She has done a great job getting everything together and with the exception of picking stuff up and gathering it together for her that one time. She has been the one to pack her own bags.
Anyways this post isn't so much about my progress but about if it's possibly to allow too much Independence. Over the weekend I shared with another mom my desire to step back and not do so much. This mom then proceeds to tell me about how independent her kids have. They chose when and want to eat, when to sleep, what they wear (I'm fine with that one), when to bath, if they bath, if they want to do school work (they are doing unlearning home school no curriculum), if they want to clean, if they want to brush their hair and so forth.She also said she likes it when her girls argue with her because that means they are forming their own opinions and learning to be assertive.
Okay so I'm not insulting this mom in any way. I totally get different strokes for different folks. Her daughters have always been well mannered around me. And with the exception of me wanting to scream at her DD to change her clothes and put on deodorant when she spends the night at my house (something I have never done), I really can't say anything negative about the results of how she is doing things.
But is it just me or does that seem like a lot of freedom for a child. Her kids range in ages 6-12. I could not imagine letting my 6 year old wear dirty undies for three days.