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Health Issues and Weight

Posted by on Dec. 30, 2017 at 2:16 AM
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My dd is 17 and has a variety of medical issues.  She is now overweight and doctors are concerned.  This is not a mama who is concerned, this is the doctors.  From her PCP to her specialists.  Because of her dietary restrictions and fatigue caused by her medical issues, how can I help my daughter lose weight?

She is so tired all the time, and she loves food.  We eat healthy meals in this house but I cannot control what she does at school and work.  

Any ideas?

PS. I have one that is overweight and the other is underweight and she worries me too!

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Debmomto2teens
by Silver Member on Dec. 30, 2017 at 7:15 AM
I’m not sure where you live, but many children’s hospitals have healthy weight loss clinics. I took my oldest (who barely qualified but wanted to lose weight) and it is a very healthy, holistic approach to weight loss. They never used the word diet. They have 5 people we had to see at least once (if you didn’t need that specialist, you didn’t see them again)... physician, dietician/nutritionist, exercise therapist, social worker and psychologist.
fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Dec. 30, 2017 at 9:28 AM

We went to nutrition specialists before.  Because of dietary restrictions, they aren't very helpful.  She can't have a lot of fiber so tons of veggies are out.  We don't use the word diet either.  We use healthy choices.  She is finally drinking plenty of water, because she will dehydrate quickly if she doesn't drink alot.  I am trying to find recipies for healthier living.  Boneless, skinless chicken breast is just not cutting it for every meal.  On top of that, nuts and seeds are out.  

Quoting Debmomto2teens: I’m not sure where you live, but many children’s hospitals have healthy weight loss clinics. I took my oldest (who barely qualified but wanted to lose weight) and it is a very healthy, holistic approach to weight loss. They never used the word diet. They have 5 people we had to see at least once (if you didn’t need that specialist, you didn’t see them again)... physician, dietician/nutritionist, exercise therapist, social worker and psychologist.


Debmomto2teens
by Silver Member on Dec. 30, 2017 at 9:44 AM
THe nutritionist we went to specialized in restricted diets. I wouldn’t dismiss all nutritionist based on one experience.

Quoting fantasticfour:

We went to nutrition specialists before.  Because of dietary restrictions, they aren't very helpful.  She can't have a lot of fiber so tons of veggies are out.  We don't use the word diet either.  We use healthy choices.  She is finally drinking plenty of water, because she will dehydrate quickly if she doesn't drink alot.  I am trying to find recipies for healthier living.  Boneless, skinless chicken breast is just not cutting it for every meal.  On top of that, nuts and seeds are out.  

Quoting Debmomto2teens: I’m not sure where you live, but many children’s hospitals have healthy weight loss clinics. I took my oldest (who barely qualified but wanted to lose weight) and it is a very healthy, holistic approach to weight loss. They never used the word diet. They have 5 people we had to see at least once (if you didn’t need that specialist, you didn’t see them again)... physician, dietician/nutritionist, exercise therapist, social worker and psychologist.

atlmom2
by Susie on Dec. 30, 2017 at 9:51 AM
You can only encourage and so what you can do. Outside the home it is on the 17 year olds shoulders to eat healthy and exercise.
fantasticfour
by Grumpy on Dec. 30, 2017 at 2:52 PM

Oh it wasn't  just one nutritionist.  She has seen several at different hospitals.  Three different hospitals actually.  It's so difficult because of her restrictions, she should be exercising more, however, with her fatigue, it's so difficult to exercise.  She can barely get out of bed some days.  I'm going to try to work on healthier meals for the entire family.  It's not that we aren't going to be able to benefit from them haha.

Quoting Debmomto2teens: THe nutritionist we went to specialized in restricted diets. I wouldn’t dismiss all nutritionist based on one experience.
Quoting fantasticfour:

We went to nutrition specialists before.  Because of dietary restrictions, they aren't very helpful.  She can't have a lot of fiber so tons of veggies are out.  We don't use the word diet either.  We use healthy choices.  She is finally drinking plenty of water, because she will dehydrate quickly if she doesn't drink alot.  I am trying to find recipies for healthier living.  Boneless, skinless chicken breast is just not cutting it for every meal.  On top of that, nuts and seeds are out.  

Quoting Debmomto2teens: I’m not sure where you live, but many children’s hospitals have healthy weight loss clinics. I took my oldest (who barely qualified but wanted to lose weight) and it is a very healthy, holistic approach to weight loss. They never used the word diet. They have 5 people we had to see at least once (if you didn’t need that specialist, you didn’t see them again)... physician, dietician/nutritionist, exercise therapist, social worker and psychologist.


heybooboo
by Silver Member on Dec. 30, 2017 at 3:11 PM
We worked with a geneticist that specializes in mitochondrial and metabolic disorders to develop a diet for our 12 year old. It's a high protein low carb plan with nutritional supplements. It's made a huge difference for him.

I have a similar diet, but mine's more tricky as I have food allergies and sensitivities I have to account for as well.

Quoting fantasticfour:

Oh it wasn't  just one nutritionist.  She has seen several at different hospitals.  Three different hospitals actually.  It's so difficult because of her restrictions, she should be exercising more, however, with her fatigue, it's so difficult to exercise.  She can barely get out of bed some days.  I'm going to try to work on healthier meals for the entire family.  It's not that we aren't going to be able to benefit from them haha.

Quoting Debmomto2teens: THe nutritionist we went to specialized in restricted diets. I wouldn’t dismiss all nutritionist based on one experience.

Quoting fantasticfour:

We went to nutrition specialists before.  Because of dietary restrictions, they aren't very helpful.  She can't have a lot of fiber so tons of veggies are out.  We don't use the word diet either.  We use healthy choices.  She is finally drinking plenty of water, because she will dehydrate quickly if she doesn't drink alot.  I am trying to find recipies for healthier living.  Boneless, skinless chicken breast is just not cutting it for every meal.  On top of that, nuts and seeds are out.  

Quoting Debmomto2teens: I’m not sure where you live, but many children’s hospitals have healthy weight loss clinics. I took my oldest (who barely qualified but wanted to lose weight) and it is a very healthy, holistic approach to weight loss. They never used the word diet. They have 5 people we had to see at least once (if you didn’t need that specialist, you didn’t see them again)... physician, dietician/nutritionist, exercise therapist, social worker and psychologist.

Kimmybabe
by Silver Member on Dec. 30, 2017 at 9:20 PM

Our youngest daughter and SIL were on the chubby side at 13. SIL is a fixer and decided that she and he should go on diets and join a fitness club together. By the following summer both had slimmed down and she filled a wild bikini.  During her three pregnancies she kept weight gain below 25 pounds and lost it back down.

(He may be socially clueless, but he ain't stupid. He knew that he increased his chances of her falling in love with him by spending more time with her.)

They continue to have to watch what they eat and SIL has a separate "man cave" room that he has exercise equipment in for them to continue to exercise in as well as a place to go to during the wee hours of the morning because he is one of those odd ducks that only sleeps four or five hours a night.  They also keep a close watch on what their little ones eat. 

Our oldest daughter and SIL are the type who can eat without weight gain. This may be a difference in metabolism?

The key to it is that your daugher has to take charge of this and watch what she eats as there is no magic bullet to keeping it down. Youngest couple found that once you get into the swing of eating less, it gets easier to follow through. It is harder for some than it is for other.

Ziva65
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2017 at 7:38 AM
Maybe a functional medicine clinic? They’re pretty holistic, and really work well with dietary restrictions.

Can she join a gym and go with a friend, or walk the dog routinely? I’d suggest a sports team if still in high school, might be hard if she misses a lot though. Swimming is good too.
SeanandNoahsmom
by Member on Jan. 5, 2018 at 6:55 PM
Since 3 nutrionists couldn’t be of much help, I’m not sure what to suggest.Does she understand that her health issues will get much worse, if she gains too much weight? And new diagnosis may be added as well. You can only do so much with what you’re cooking at home and offering encouragement. She is old enough to take charge of her own diet and health. She’ll be off to college soon, and will then completely responsible, so it’s good that you’re reaching out for help now.
Debmomto2teens
by Silver Member on Jan. 6, 2018 at 10:30 AM
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Being in healthcare, I’m finding it hard to believe there isn’t a nutritionist that could help.

Quoting SeanandNoahsmom: Since 3 nutrionists couldn’t be of much help, I’m not sure what to suggest.Does she understand that her health issues will get much worse, if she gains too much weight? And new diagnosis may be added as well. You can only do so much with what you’re cooking at home and offering encouragement. She is old enough to take charge of her own diet and health. She’ll be off to college soon, and will then completely responsible, so it’s good that you’re reaching out for help now.
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