Frustrated and scared for my 17 year old dd (sorry -- long)
My dd is a Junior in high school (finishing this year in 2.5 weeks). She is a bright girl, kind of shy and sweet. At the beginning of the school year she got involved with the wrong guy. Joe is controlling and I suspect abusive but she has not admitted that. Pretty early in the school year he lead her to have sex for the first time (unprotected of course). They continued an unprotected sexual relationship and of course she became pregnant in early October. They go to a private boarding school which is supposed to pride itself of character development.
This boy is a senior and seniors at this school are supposed to show leadership. He "lead" her into sex, drugs, lying, stealing and running away. Until recently she and he were planning to raise this baby somehow on nothing. When they caught his once again smoking pot in one of the school bathrooms, they sent him to another campus out of state because they felt that he was being a bad influence on her.
After he was 3 states away, she admitted to me that she had wanted to break up with him, but he had threatened to kill her if she ever did. With him 3 states away she felt comfortable in breaking up with him. She told everyone how free she felt and seemed happier than she had been in a long time. She decided to give her baby up for adoption so she could continue her education and the child could have a loving two-parent family. She is adopted and had reconnected with her birthdad who helped her make this loving decision.
On Mother's Day he called her. She was home here for the weekend. Last night I got e-mail from her admitting that she forgave him and they are getting back together. I am worried for her safety (he isolated her and threatened her and "punished" her in the past) and I am worried that he may convince her not to follow through on her adoption plans. I am very scared and worried.