Ok Ladies, I really need your help with this. My 18 yr old daughter just admitted to me that she smokes pot. When she told me I didn't freak out. I didn't yell or scream. I told her how I felt, the health implications, legalities. I told her what I went through to keep her away from that world. I told her I hoped she was smarter than that etc. I also told her I better NEVER find out there is or has been pot in my house, and that I DO NOT want her in this house stoned. I have a 14 and 10 to think of as well. This was last night.
Today I don't feel very positive about the way I handled it. I wonder if I should have freaked a little. I am disgusted and tired. I am thinking of starting doing random drug testing on her. They have the kits at the drug store. I am thinking that if the test comes back positive or she refuses to take it I should tell her to get out. I am soo sad. She is about to graduate and go to college. I am throwing her a big graduation party and have bought her a really great gift. Now however I just don't feel like she deserves any of it.
i really don't know what to do. How big a deal should I make of this? If I push the issue too much she will simply move in with her grandfather, my father. He has already given her permission and apparently knew she was smoking and never told me. I hate feeling powerless when my daughter is messing up her life.
Any advice ladies?