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Trouble with porn, drinking and smoking.

Posted by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:16 PM
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I have a 16 y/o boy into all of this and sees no wrong in his actions. He has no respect for me or my position as his stepmom. No disipline works with him. What can I do?

by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 8:16 PM
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by on Aug. 28, 2009 at 10:07 PM

what does ur Dh do when your stepson treats you bad? how long have u been his stepmom and do you & his bio mom get along?



by on Aug. 29, 2009 at 2:34 AM

I am haveing this problem with my 13 yearold. Had to take away the internet because he was looking at gay porn. Now he things he is bisexual. UHHHHHH. No idea how to deal with this!

by on Aug. 30, 2009 at 12:03 AM

~TO GODDESS MOM~ my 15yr old daughter told me today that she is bisexual.  i don't look at this as something to "deal with".  your child needs you more then ever now to be by their side as they figure out what & who in life makes them happy & if that means a partner of the same sex, well share in their happiness, cuz not everyone is lucky enough to find it!  also remember that your child will also be subject to cruelty from others because of their orientation, so PLEASE don't make them have to face & "deal with" your insecurites too!!!  i wish all the best to you & your son :)

Jenn Petitto, Pure Romance by Jenn


by on Aug. 30, 2009 at 3:57 AM

Hi, I am a step mom too and we had some tough times...she's now doing well and 22! My best friend's son started having a problem with the same things last year when he was 15. The internet porn is easy....take away the internet. How is the drinking affecting his grades and day to day living? The thing I would suggest, is to take away ANY $$ from allowance, lunch money, ect. That would eliminate extra $ for drinking and smoking. My friend did just that, made him take lunch from home and come straight helped. Also, I have the same question as some of the other moms, how is your husband supporting you? Good luck and take care. 

by on Aug. 30, 2009 at 9:01 PM


When my stepson treats me bad my hubby yells at him and takes away his IPOD and makes him sit at the kitchen table and copy definitions from the dictionary. My stepson gets no allowance, I take a check into the school and he is not allowed to hang out with anyone. He still gets the stuff because he either steals the booze from my parents and bums cigs off others who have them. It is no showing any differences to him, but he has ADHD so it is hard to tell what is his condition and what is other things.

by Gold Member on Aug. 31, 2009 at 9:33 PM

then You and his dad need to Get Tough.Take away everything.Put him in his room. remove everything but his bed, a stack of books and few clothes.You can nail his window so it will only open 4 inches(no escaping) .Take the door off(he can't be trusted)he comes out for meals, bathroom, school.Try this for 1 Month.NO Ipod,no cell no going out no friend in.He is NOW in Boyjail or Under House Arrest!! Explain that if he  cant handle this imagine how real jail would be because that where he is headed !! Believe me you will see a huge improvement.

by on Sep. 3, 2009 at 7:55 PM

Hi my name is Eva an dI am a step mom of three but mom to all 4 of my sons. I have one teenager who just moved in with us and have been haveing difficult times with him. i get the usual reactions "ur not my mom" "i dont have to listen to you " "what ever " " what are you gonna do about it" etc the list goes on and on. My Teen is 13 years old and the youngest under him just turned 12 and is starting to show signs of following the older one. he has stollen from us , lied to us about going to a girls house and has been saying nasty stuff behind our backs and on his myspace. I am not legally his step mom he says till his dad and and I are married ....what can i do in the mean time ???I just feel like brakeing down all the time crying and praying.

I care and love thees kids buti just dont know how to handle this teenage drama.

by on Sep. 5, 2009 at 9:01 AM

All the parents and step parents, no matter how they get along on other topics, need to be consistant with the kids. There needs to be open communicatin so all know what is going on and how the other parents are reacting and responding. If it comes down to a family meeting or intervention - do whatever it takes.

You need to show with your actions as well as your words what your standards and values are.

by on Sep. 5, 2009 at 9:11 AM

Getting rid of cable and the internet may help. 

by on Sep. 5, 2009 at 12:02 PM said he has adhd? i think thats what i read? is he taking his meds? also he needs to be getting some form of couseling.maybe for you and hubby too? the attitude is a typical teen thing.but the drinking or drugs is not.the porn? well teens do that.we parents may hate it but they get it at school,friends happens.teens looking at that stuff i think thats normal too.these are there adolence years.puberty.curiousity.are you open to taling to him about sex? or your hubby? i dont know how old your son is? if i was with hubby and get a game plan of your goals with son and how to get things back to normal.and stick to it.taking away only a ipod or writing things out of a dictionary is a joke to a teen.unfortunately your going to have to dish out some tough love.and also try the couseling might help you all understand where each other is coming from.hope i could help.good luck

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