"act" their age? how about look/dress? do you think teens are being made to grow up more quickly these days than before? why or why not?
Yes,I do think they seem to have to act older,and sometimes. They feel they have to dress older,cause everyone else is.,Look at what they see on tv,how can they not.But my oldest seems to fall more to the pressure of they way he dresses,more so than my youngest.
This is my 12 year old,he is very small for his age and looks very young.He apears to seem much younger than his age and people think I am his grandmother because I had him when I was in my 30's and him looking so young.But he dresses as he wants to,but I have seen,the pressure starting on him,too.
the photo was taken last night at hallow scream,at bush gardens.
But my older one he has always looked much older than his age and everone has always tried to treat him as if he was older,cause he even acted as an older person.I was always reminding everyone he was only a child,when they would get upset cause he didnt respond as an adult,how we forget ourselves.
He is 19,He still acts older,but I think time is catching up with his looks,cause he no longer looks 3-4years older than he is.
My Son TJ @ 19 has branched most recently with reality regarding he's not a kid anylonger. However, he's struggling with having to grow up, but for most teens I think they go to the self pressure of trying to discover themselves which adds stress for them then I can remember when I was a teen and wanting to be considered mature, but really loved not having the responsibility so it felt like a tug and pull within me and peer pressure to boot. If it was up to me, my favorite was when he was 3 - 5 years old. I thought him early that he's an individual and taught him to try to stem for that and not go after the designer in crowd. In that area I'm glad he is true to that, however, he does have his own style and I don't always agree, but he's cool and I didn't want him to be a follower or an extreme leader, just somewhere in the middle grown. However, "rebellion" for all of us with our teens vary, and for some of us mom's are similiar. All we can do as mom's is to do our best, and most of all teach our kids that "we" don't follow ....we as mom lead, however, not be so judgemental towards others who don't dress as we do.... csjoy1
Quoting Aurorasmom: do your teens "act" their age? how about look/dress? do you think teens are being made to grow up more quickly these days than before? why or why not?
Yes, I do think my teens, both 13, "act their age". I make sure of it.
I have both a bio daughter and a foster son. Luckily FS came to me at about 11 years old and was not overly advanced in supposed maturity. I just had to relay to him what was acceptable behavior in my home. The movies and music he was watching & listening had to change because those WERE too advanced IMO and unacceptable to me.
I have taken much care over the years with my daughter to make sure she didn't become "20" at "12". I made sure she wasn't watching & listening to things too advanced for her, wearing clothes too sexy for her, and learning about life too advanced for her.
Keeping her the correct age when it came to TV and movies and toys and friends and knowlege of the world wasn't easy either. Society is against us and I DO believe that kids are being made to grow up faster than ever because of fashion and the media. Government and society does not help. They say kids have rights and kids should be allowed and kids should have a say......NO WAY I say. Society does not put a limit on anything these days and it is effecting and affecting the kids & teens.
I'm ready to pull the earbuds out of his ears and put them somewhere less comfortable.
- Aurorasmom
on Sep. 27, 2009 at 3:05 PM