I don't know if I am depressed or what

[sarah_jo05]

So lately all I want to do is cry and I feel like all me and my husband do is fight.  Our son is 7 weeks old and we have been married for a year.  On our ann. I gave him a card, and he didn't even get me a card. It is our first ann. I would have thought he would have at least got a card.  Then the same week he I cook him supper for his brithday and he goes out for a few drinks before knowing I am making supper and never comes home for supper. It pissed me off.  THe he tells me I boss him around to much, but for godsake I have to tell him to mow the yard becasue if I didnt the yard would never get mowed and he cant even fold his own work lclothes and put his dishes in the dishwasher.  I did not marry him to be a fucking maid and he pisses me off. I have pretty well been crying myself to sleep everynight and i feel like know one knows what I am going throught, that my husband doesnt love me and sometimes the thought of divorce crosses my mind, but when I got married it is till death escpecially since we have a child now.  I just don't know what to do the only person I talk to outside my home is my sister becasue no one else ever has time to talk.  I feel like the world is against me,. I almosst have a masters degree now and cant find a job in my field.]

 

Sorry i had to get that off my chest or I might go crazy

[ibarrasgirl]

Aww, hang in there!  Your hubby's prly just still getting adjusted to the new addition to the family.  They don't realize how much work a newborn is.  My husband left our car on E, and I went crazy, lol!  But seriously, what if there was an emergency and I had to take the baby to the hospital or something?  He said he'd rush home from work, yea...not smart DUMB DUMB, lol!  Anyway, takes them a little longer to "get it", ya know?  You guys might need to sit down and have a talk before things get worse.  Keep up your chin up, :) and remember, we're here for ya!

[JeresMom]

I agree with the PP!  Is there anyway the two of you could have a friend or family member babysit so the two of you can get outside the home and communicate?  Alot of times are men feel neglected and sometimes they don't express themselves.  I think they forget that it is "our"child.  With our first i felt like hubby thought I was the babysitter, like oh going out now...like it was my job to be with the babe constantly, ya know?  But with communication anything is possible.  Things should get better.  If they don't look into some counseling since you're in it for the long haul.  I know its hard but try not to hold on to hurt feelings and anger.  They show through big time.  I hope you and your little one are getting along well :)

[Alaina83]

I'm sorry. The first year of marriage is tough enough without adding things like pregnancy and a baby. My DH and I hadn't been married very long when we had our first baby and at the time I could have written your post, it seemed we were always fighting, stressed out. I didn't feel like he loved me and divorce crossed my mind too. Once we sat down to talk I found out that he felt negelcted that I loved the baby more than him so he was hurting too. What really helped us was this wonderful little book called "Fall in Love, Stay in Love" it really taught us how to talk to eachother and put eachother first and get the love back. Like the PP said get a baby sitter and make time to take date night together. Good luck hun I hope things get better.

[bdistrola]

Been there with our frist and seems to be the same with the second.  All the things you are feelingis what I ahve been feeling.   I was going around wondering why men thought parenting was a voluntary thing for them, meaning they are they when good for them and they live in the same house. our second child now almost 2 months old has some tummy issues and cries alot, it has really put stress on our marriage.   I know if we can make it till the bayby is 6 months we will be fine.  Some days are harder than others.It amazes me how he can up and say I am going fishing next sundaym what if I said I am going to the spa for half the day, he would loose it.Granted since we have a baby that requires more atention than most I feel I ahve to be there anyway cause he justt hinks the baby is doing it to be a pain....really a baby give me a break.  Some just cannot cope well with newborns.  He is a gret father to out 2.5 year old and know he will eventually connect with our newest daughter. Hang in there and do not give up just yet.

[LittlestKeen]

Omg you sound like ME! It gets better. Having a baby is a big deal. My baby is 6 months and we're barely getting back into a good routine.