Guardian Angels .......ABUSE of any-Kind.

[SissyAnn141]

 Link is clickable      http://www.cafemom.com/group/15807

NO DRAMA ALLOWED! 
   
We have ALL been through enough!

This is a safe place that you can come to cry, vent or release your frustrations even if you are not ready to leave your abuser yet.

YOU WILL NOT BE JUDGED HERE!

Everyone here from the Group Owner to the Administrators have once walked in your shoes.

We are NOT professionals, but rather a group of women offering our support based on our personal experiences.

We are a very active and informative group.

Please take the time to read posted information & add to it, in order to help others.
 
Please read our guidelines and cafemom's, before applying.

We are also on a 60 deletion, by the cafemom computer, if no activity from you.

We are here to let abused women know -
 YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
 THIS IS A GROUP FOR ABUSED WOMEN
            (by ANY family member)
                           OR
        For Formally Abused Women

*******WARNING**********
SOME THINGS YOU READ OR SEE YOU MAY FIND VERY UPSETTING.

Applications will not be approved for any cafemom member with less than 100 profile views.
 
The safety & protection of EVERY member is our main priority & it is not taken lightly.

PLZ CLICK ON OWNERS PROFILE.(click on name- view profile)
 
INVITE AS A FRIEND, BEFORE YOU EVEN APPLY ♥♥
 

 OUR  members are IMPORTANT.
 
OUR  MEMBERS, COME FIRST !

[SissyAnn141]

 

COMMON MYTHS AND WHY THEY ARE WRONG 

 

Domestic violence is not a problem in my community.

• Michigan State Police records from 1997 show that a woman is killed by a partner or former partner about once a week in Michigan.
• In 1998, the Michigan State Police reported more than 5,000 victims of domestic violence in Oakland County.

Domestic violence only happens to poor women and women of color.

• Domestic violence happens in all kinds of families and relationships. Persons of any class, culture, religion, sexual orientation, marital status, age, and sex can be victims or perpetrators of domestic violence.

Some people deserve to be hit.

• No one deserves to be abused. Period. The only person responsible for the abuse is the abuser.
• Physical violence, even among family members, is wrong and against the law.

Alcohol, drug abuse, stress, and mental illness cause domestic violence.

• Alcohol use, drug use, and stress do not cause domestic violence; they may go along with domestic violence, but they do not cause the violence. Abusers often say they use these excuses for their violence. (Michigan Judicial Institute, Domestic Violence Benchbook, 1998, p. 1.6 - 1.7)
• Generally, domestic violence happens when an abuser has learned and chooses to abuse. (Michigan Judicial Institute, Domestic Violence Benchbook, 1998, p. 1 - 5)
• Domestic violence is rarely caused by mental illness, but it is often used as an excuse for domestic violence. (Michigan Judicial Institute, Domestic Violence Benchbook, 1998, p. 1 - 8)

Domestic violence is a personal problem between a husband and a wife.

• Domestic violence affects everyone.
• About 1 in 3 American women have been physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives. (Commonwealth Fund, Health Concerns Across a Woman's Lifespan: the Commonwealth Fund 1998 Survey of Women's Health, 1999)
• In 1996, 30% of all female murder victims were killed by their husbands or boyfriends. (Federal Bureau of Investigation, 1997)
• 40% to 60% of men who abuse women also abuse children. (American Psychological Association, Violence and the Family, 1996)

If it were that bad, she would just leave.

• There are many reasons why women may not leave. Not leaving does not mean that the situation is okay or that the victim want to be abused.
• Leaving can be dangerous. The most dangerous time for a woman who is being abused is when she tries to leave. (United States Department of Justice, National Crime Victim Survey, 1995)
  
  MANY VICTIMS DO LEAVE AND LEAD SUCCESSFUL, VIOLENCE FREE LIVES.

[SissyAnn141]

BUMP!