What do you do when its all bad?

[Airforcemom511]

I consider myself a christian woman who wants to due the will of my Father who is in heaven.  I know the bible says marriage is for better of for worse but what if it is bad all the time?  My husband does not mentally or physically abuse me but we just do not get along!  We really never have but since I was 17, I was nieve to the fact that we shouldn't be together.  I feel so lost because I don't want us to be together but I do not want to willingly sin.

[samgirl03]

I don't believe divorce is a sin at all. I think if you're in a relationship that does not make you happy, despite your best efforts, can be emotionally exhausting. I also think if you're unhappily married that without a divorce it'll lead to temptations and adultry which I do believe is a sin.

 

I'm sorry you're unhappy :( If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here for ya.

[SWyvill]

I have been trying to figure out how exactly to help, the only thing I came up with is that it is not healthy for you to be in a relationship in which you are not happy. Humans were not meant to be perfect and that is why Jesus died on the cross for us. So that we may sin and ask forgiveness and be forgiven.  If you divorce him, pray for forgiveness and repent, God will forgive you. I will be praying for you as well hun.

[U.S.ArmyWife]

Quoting samgirl03:

I don't believe divorce is a sin at all. I think if you're in a relationship that does not make you happy, despite your best efforts, can be emotionally exhausting. I also think if you're unhappily married that without a divorce it'll lead to temptations and adultry which I do believe is a sin.

 

I'm sorry you're unhappy :( If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here for ya.

exactly, well said

[ThriceAMommy]

The bible says that the only reason for divorce is cheating! However - I would NEVER live my life unhappy just to stay married! And I think that God won't nitpick us to death when it comes time to judge! However - you have to try all options first! Try counseling, try talking it out, try changing some things about yourself - because unfortunately you can't change him! If all that doesn't help and you have exhausted every option - and God willing you don't have kids involved - just leave him. If NEITHER of you want to work on it, then that is best! If only you are unhappy then take a longer look at the issue! In the end - do whats best for your sanity, but don't think the grass is greener on the other side! Most of the time it isn't! And next time put a lot of time and thought and prayer into who you marry!

[Susan0805]

I think marriage is like a roller coaster... dh and I have been married for over 5 years (married at 18 & 19). We both are christians and we dont really believe in divorce but there have been times as we grow and move through life that we found we had nothing in common because we were so busy doing our own time that we didnt make time to build our relationship together. My advice would be to dont give up just yet but try to make a point to talk and spend more time together as much as possible. Make a point to go the extra mile to do things together and to be patient with each other. I know this isnt easy as a military family and sometimes it can feel like your all alone .. but just be patient, like a said I believe marriage is a big ol' roller coaster full of ups and downs. I hope that things get better... hang in there!