I was in the army when i meet my husband. We were both in the same company and we got married not long after we meet. Well i got out on medical and have been an army wife for about a year and a half. But now were about to have our first baby in July. Im so confused and i dont know what to do or where to start. Whats it like being a military spouse and a mom. Is it hard on your kids because you have to move so much. And i dont work i stay at home and i have been here at ft polk for about 5 months and i still dont have any friends because i dont get out of the house. I need help on all of this. Before my husband was in school so i knew a lot of people and we were there for a while but now i dont know what to do. And i have no clue what im in for when the baby is born any help would be great =)
My heart is with you for those whose husband is deployed at the moment and i wish them a safe return home to you and your family.
i myself am a new military spouse, and mom to a 9 1/2 month old. its just like if you were babysitting, only its 24-7-365.
like you, not long after my husband and i met we got married, and got pregnant rather easily and quickly.
met in october '07
engaged november '07
found out i was pregnant december '07
married january '08
we live at home with my mom, but thankfully and hopefully not much longer.
i have been by myself most of our marriage, because not long after we got married, he was deployed.
its been a little over a year now that we have been married.
i treat it like its any other day.
Hi Shelii!
I was a army wife for 24 years to a field medic. I know that it seems that army life is hard; and it is; but if you just start talking to other wives,,,,,,,you will see how much you have in common. I always would tell spouses that it is really important to join your family support groups.....you will meet people, have activities for both the adults and children and they are the best support you will have. You will meet people and continue to be friends for many, many years if you choose that. My husband has been retired now since 1998 and still works on post as a civil service employee. Just remember, step out of your comfort join, meet people and take advantage of the family support groups. Good luck and anytime you need to know something; let me know and I will try to help you find the right answer.
Liz
Being a mom is being a mom - no matter where you are! And if you view moving as a positive thing - so will your kids. As far as not making friends - I have issues with that also. But why haven't you gotten out? I don't go out much because I have 3 kids! But - once you have your child, you will meet other moms at parks or McDonalds or wherever - you have to put yourself out there a little bit! Being a military spouse is a hard job! One of the hardest! Stressful, unrewarding a lot of the time, long hours, lonely nights! But if you love your soldier it is all worth it! And you have an advantage over most of us - you have been in - so it should be easier for you! Don't take any second for granted with your baby - love that child and be happy to be home with him/her - not all are so lucky! Good luck!
Being a miitary brat AND a military wife I can tell you both sides of the story so to speak. Well my side anyway, as a kid it did suck moving from post to post, but in the long run it made me more outgoing because we moved so much i HAD to make friends myself. I rarely have a hard time making friends now because I was put in a situation growing up that it was be a loner or make long life friends for the short time I was living somewhere.
As a mother to children who are living the same life I did as a kid, I was concerned too how my kids would be able to handle it. My kids are 2, 4 , and 7 tomorrow, and the way I see it is that they will probably hate moving every couple of years but how many kids will get to say that they lived in germany for 2 years, or this state and that state. I'm all about life opportunities and if they think it sucks now they will realize when they are older (like I did) that its an amazing chance in life to be able to see as much of this world as possible. I have been to almost every state in the US and for the first time in my life just went to Germany (and will be moving there in a few months) I can't wait to be able to see what else this world has to offer.
Your child will be born into this "family" and so he/she won't know any different moving every couple of years or whatever. I didn't have any idea that life was different for people "off post" I always thought this was the way life was. Not until my parents retired and we became "civilians" did I really know. Even after all the moving in my day.. THAT was the biggest shock actually..
Well I need to be done rambling. I have company coming soon, but I really hope that even one sentence I said helps you a little bit.... I'm always here.... Nice to "meet" you....
new army girlfriend
- Shelii
on May. 26, 2009 at 10:51 AM