I've been kind of wanting another baby, but my husband's been hesitant on the idea. We visited the in-laws this past weekend and while we were there we FINALLY stopped fighting so much and agreed to be more patient with each other. (YAY!) Cameron's been saying he NEVER wants anymore kids because Harley was PERFECT (and looked like him) and there's no way any kid could EVER come near how perfect she was. Well, when we were visiting the in-laws Cameron meantioned having another baby (FIRST time he's ever mentioned it). He asked what I thought about it because he said that's the only way he sees his life getting better instead of worse, since his family has a history of alcoholism and he's headed down the same path if something doesn't change. We talked about it and our fears and I think we may just be TTC here soon. At 10 weeks gestation we'll be able to do genetic testing to see if the baby has Alpers like Harley and we've agreed that if it does we'll terminate the pregnancy. There is no way we can put another one of our children through the suffering that Harley went through. It hurts me so bad to agree to that, but we ourselves can't handle it, either. I don't want to have the baby and just wait until the day it starts having seizures, knowing it's the end of their short life; it's just not fair to any of us. We still aren't 100% sure (and my mom will NOT like this, but it's not her life) but he threw the idea out there and that's a start! I'll let you all know what happens as it occurs. = )
WOW! Thats awesome news for you! I will be praying for you guys that the timing is right and that this baby will be 100% healthy. This has got to be exciting and scary for you at the sametime, just thinking about it. I know that it's a hard decision to make about terminating the preg. if it were to have alpers, but you know what you would have to do. I pray that God gives you another baby when you are ready and you will be able to watch it grow to be an amazing adult. My prayers are constantly with you and Cameron, and you are amazingly strong people to have to gone through this and still be going. You are in my prayers. Keep us updated, and congratulations for starting to think about TTC!
Its a start to get hubby to even think about having another baby. I wish you all the best of luck and tons of babydust!!! I'm sure Harley would love to watch over a new baby brother or sister. Keep us posted!
~Ave'~
Happily Married to Tim, Mommy to 2 dogs & Expecting out 1st Little Lamm 2/16/2010!!!
Congrats on the first step. I will pray that you guys have no problems TTC and that the baby is happy and heathy. Having to terminate the pregnancy will be horrible for you guys. GL!
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Oh Katie I think that's a great idea! I don't blame you on terminating but I have a feeling your next baby will not have Alpers! Camryn didn't have Blake's condition and we had a 25% chance. Harley will always be perfect but your next baby will too. I know the love I have for Blake and the love I have for Camryn are totally different. And honestly sometimes I think I love Blake more but I don't think I could love him more than her. I just went through so much with him. The fighting is awful after losing a child. I've told you before I couldn't imagine not having Camryn after losing Blake. I think you guys need a new life! You know your not replacing her. You never could replace her. And if you do have a new baby boy or girl. You will see alot of Harley in her you will compare the two. You will laugh and cry when you see Harley come out in her. I wish you luck and I pray you have a healthy baby if you do decide!!
I hope everything works out! Things will get better, you'll see....:). Good Job on being so so strong.
I'm so happy you and your hubby were able to sit down and talk. I can only imagine how hard it must have been to do that. I will be praying that your have no problems TTC and your next baby will be healthy. I do not blame you for choosing to terminate if the baby does test positive, but I'm praying it won't come to that!
You are so strong! GL
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