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I've been kind of wanting another baby, but my husband's been hesitant on the idea. We visited the in-laws this past weekend and while we were there we FINALLY stopped fighting so much and agreed to be more patient with each other. (YAY!) Cameron's been saying he NEVER wants anymore kids because Harley was PERFECT (and looked like him) and there's no way any kid could EVER come near how perfect she was. Well, when we were visiting the in-laws Cameron meantioned having another baby (FIRST time he's ever mentioned it). He asked what I thought about it because he said that's the only way he sees his life getting better instead of worse, since his family has a history of alcoholism and he's headed down the same path if something doesn't change. We talked about it and our fears and I think we may just be TTC here soon. At 10 weeks gestation we'll be able to do genetic testing to see if the baby has Alpers like Harley and we've agreed that if it does we'll terminate the pregnancy. There is no way we can put another one of our children through the suffering that Harley went through. It hurts me so bad to agree to that, but we ourselves can't handle it, either. I don't want to have the baby and just wait until the day it starts having seizures, knowing it's the end of their short life; it's just not fair to any of us. We still aren't 100% sure (and my mom will NOT like this, but it's not her life) but he threw the idea out there and that's a start! I'll let you all know what happens as it occurs. = )


by on Oct. 20, 2009 at 5:31 PM
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by on Oct. 22, 2009 at 9:53 AM

 Katie, God will only give you what you can handle.  Just remember that! 

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by New Member on Oct. 22, 2009 at 11:54 AM

Oh wow that is good news. Nothing will ever fill the void in your heart from losing your precious Harley, but a healthy baby would bring such happiness and blessings. I hope you and your husband can work through the issues with alcoholism and and I wish you two the best in TTC.

Keep us posted!


by New Member on Oct. 23, 2009 at 8:48 PM

Aww good luck to you guys sending baby dust your way

by New Member on Oct. 27, 2009 at 11:23 AM

That's terrific news!!!!

by on Oct. 30, 2009 at 9:53 PM

That's wonderful new Katie! I will be praying for you two!

by on Oct. 31, 2009 at 7:41 PM

baby dustHere is some baby dust for you

by Member on Nov. 2, 2009 at 3:02 AM

thats great news. i understand where you are coming from if you decide to terminate the pregnancy, and to be able to find out at 10weeks will also help put your minds at ease. good luck ttc and just remember not to stress to much about it. good luck and keep us updated..... 

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by Member on Nov. 7, 2009 at 2:03 PM

Praying the best for you in all things and ttc...

by New Member on Nov. 8, 2009 at 9:30 AM

baby dustThis is awesome news!!  Good luck TTC and I will be praying that when you do, the baby is 100% healthy!!  God only gives us what we can handle and I do not blame you for terminating if the baby does have Alpers'.  I pray he/she will not though!  You can never replace Harley and she will always be perfect to you both.  But a new baby can bring so much happiness and joy to you both and your family!! God bless and keep us posted!

by New Member on Jun. 3, 2011 at 9:22 PM

any update on the new baby

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