So I finally switched to a sulphate free shampoo & conditioner
It's call Carol's Daughter... I bought the full set: shampoo, conditioner, hair treatment mask and monoi oil treatment.
...and let me just say aside from the monoi oil treatment I just HATE IT! I don't know how this is possible but it has made my hair harder than when I was using crappy drugstore quality Herbal Essences. The stupid product promises 96% less breakage after 1 use, and ok well I don't see my hair breaking, but it just doesn't feel nice until the next day.
So anyway I am using it up just because it was pricey and small bottles anyway....buuuut a warning to you ladies - this may not be the brand for you!