Hello im Joy thanks for letting me join. Im a Christian married mum of two from the UK. ive two children a son aged 13 daughter 11. Im going through the terrible teens at the moment. He has a bad attitude, he's become very rude and disrespectful. How do other moms cope i will take any advice on board.
Thank you Joy
Looking back he is behaving like the terrible two's. When he can't have is own way. They sort of go backwards, throwing a strop when i say no and he goes in the huff. Then it's the back talk the attitude. I came to the end of my tether with him yesterday he was caught climbing up a electricity pylon by my sister who has them in a field near the back of her house. I did something i haven't done in a while and gave him a sound spanking and grounded him. He's a different boy this morning being very well behaved. I came to think this morning that all children crave there boundaries even it means a spanking thankfully it has settled him down. Hope it lasts but i doubt it. One thing im sticking to is the grounding i have given him it's for a month as he could of been killed so having a sore bottom and being grounded i feel he is getting of lightly.
Thanks for the reply
Joy
For us?? well we find what works. I can say however that they are usually reflecting what they see out of the adults in the home. I've seen my sister do it with her girls and it was an eye opener. She talked to my nieces in a less that nice attitude, my niece responded the same way and my sisters threw her hands in the air and doesn't understand why they act like that. I said Hmm.. and went home and paid closer attention to myself and my kids and ya know, it was the same with me. Even if I wasn't rude or said rude words it was the attitude I said it in. Kids tend to expound on that and maginify it, but that's where they see it first. Not sure if that applies, but it's a thought.
When the kids are younger, we do spank when necessary, but each child is different. My oldest wanted to act like mom, so we let her 'be' mom for a day, she did all the stuff mom does, dinner, clean up, do all the missed chores, change the diapers, everything but the bossing around really. We told her, if she wants to act like mom, this all goes with it. She has only had to do that twice. We remind them of their attitudes, tell them to get their faces straight when they are having a problem. Take a short walk and fix it. We have had them hold hands for a day when they just couldn't get along. The oldest are a boy and girl (ages 9 and 11) so that worked well lol. SOmething we repeat with mostly our 6 yr old (he has major anxiety and anger issues) is, "It's ok to be upset about something, but it's NOT OK, to be mean" so he has had to learn to control his urge to just hit or yell when he is mad. It's a work in progress lol.
So we find what works for each child and find an appropriate discipline. Extra chores, stand in the corner, early bed, miss out on something fun, spanking or yes even soap in the mouth a few times.
Just be the reflection you want to see and stick with it! Whoever said being a parent was all fun, was NOT a parent!!
Quoting joyw1971:How do you discipline in your home.
Joy
JenD SAHM, Homeschooling, Baking, Sewing, Conservative, Green momma of 4 great kids. Join me on my blog and Cafe Mom groups: Christian Frugal Living . Sewing Modest
Hi Joy,I am new too:)
My daughter is 12 and son is 19.
I have made it through the teen years and survived...lol...
My best advice is to pick your battles.
Think more like a copilot and keep involved with them.
They still need you......more than ever.
Surround yourself with moms who have been there and done that.Surround yourself with support:)
Blessings,Tia
trying new things to keep cool
- joyw1971
on Oct. 25, 2011 at 5:26 AM