Long story short. I have two bilogical children (girls 7 and 4). And...two step-sons (13 and 15) who live with my hubby and I full time since their mom is a loser. (she really is in all aspects). Since day one (6 years ago) they have made life very difficult, mostly thanks to their mother who has encouraged them to do so. It's gotten much worse over the years and as much as I've tried...and i hate to say this really I do....but I can't stand them anymore...AT ALL. They've both become losers, disrespectful to all, horrible in school, the older one has recently been discovered by my hubby of doing drugs (which I found in his room), and so on and so on. They are terrible examples for my girls, I don't let them around the boys alone, much to my hubby's dismay. I don't trust them, I keep my purse in my room and I see through their constant lies and deceit. My husband tries to be the cool guy for them and it hans't helpped matters. He finally told me the other day he thought he could give them the benefit of the doubt but it didn't work. But when he finally realized the oldest was doing drugs he slapped him on the hand and told him not to do it anymore. Ummmmmm? Thisis very serious to our family. Not only was he doing that but I discovered he was trying to sell fake marijauana to his school mates AT school (stole all my oregano out of the cupboard and put it in small baggies. Myself and my husband both have high level clearances and work for the government. If he was arrested for this we would both lose our jobs, our clearances, and our livlyhood. I told my husband I was NOT dealking with this and he better take care of it. For six years I've tried to take care of matters with them myself but he always shoots down my efforts and puts me down infront of them to make them. I feel better. I really hate it here and want to leave very badly. I love my husband very much and if it was just him and our kids (hasn't everyone said this), life would be great. However, he is a jerk for not letting me participate in their discipline all these years and now it's greatly effected our family and I don't think I can deal with this any longer. I'm also severly embarassed when teachers call from their school and tell me how rude and disrespectful the boys are. All I can say is "sorry, but I am not allowed to interfere in their discipline, however I feel your pain". Ugh!