Ok ok, I KNOW this shouldn't bother me but it is so perhaps getting it off my chest will help me stop being annoyed/angry by it!
My SD's BM makes and has always made the relationship between my fiance and SD hard! I wont bore you with the NUMEROUS things that have happened, ask me if you want to know. Recently BM's eldest daughter just reconnected with her father and apparently BM and that father are "so close" and they talk all the time. They've even met his new family and are so close that they plan on taking "family" vacations together. W.T.F?!
My fiance and I would give anything to have a civil relationship with this woman so SD can have a healthy happy upbringing! I'd even have this woman in my home along with her other daughter for special occasions involving SD or to even swim on a hot day (we have a pool) but can't because BM is so unreasonable with us. It makes me mad because I feel bad for SD, here she is seeing how well her sister's dad and their mother get along and her parents communicate only between email. It alos in a way makes my fiance and I look like the "bad guys" and that we are unreasonable and unwilling to form a relationship with BM for the sake of SD.
I honestly even started questioning THAT perhaps it was my fiance who WAS the problem. But it's not! Any requests he makes are answered with a NO and no explanation! He sends her civil emails and BM somehow turns them around into something negative. Again won't bore you....
I mean BM has gone SO far to make sure SD knows our "families" our seperate that a few weeks after moving into our new house, when dropping SD off BM had left a bunch of photo albums my fiance made for SD's birthday a few years ago on the front porch and ordered her to take them to our house, there wasn't any room in their house for them. When we looked at the photo albums we noticed BM had gone through them and REMOVED all the pics of SD's Christmas with her and her family and even pictures of their dog!!! Her explanation to SD was "they're pictures of my family." SD was on the verge of tears and it one swift action she ruined the entire good weekend she had at our house!
I just don't get it? Why is it after 8 years of not being with my fiance she still HATES him that much that she hurts her daughter to make him feel like shit? But she is "best friends" with her other daughters father and his new family! GRRRRRRRRRRRR!