Welcome to Dysfunction Junction...

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  • AFPmyloves
  on May. 18, 2009 at 2:14 PM

•  Oh!  Good to see I am not the only one.  lol  I have a very dysfuntional family.....  My dad too is an alcoholic and drug addict to this day.  Always drama......  My name is April.  I am 36 yrs. old.  I have 2 boys and I am married... Fortunately my husband comes from a very normal family.  ha....  Looking forward to getting to know some moms out there who know what it is like to be raised in a dysfuntional family and how to turn it all around for your immidiate family.....

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  • KittyMallory
  on May. 19, 2009 at 12:01 AM

• Hello there, I'm Kitty. I'm a 39 year old, happily divorced (since 20014 officially - separated in 2000) mother of two great kids. My son is 17 and my daughter is 11.

  In my family, there isn't even the excuse of addiction. My family was just how they were - my father just not wanting to be involved (but in all fairness, in his generation, the man left the woman to raise the kids while he spent one good day with them). But my mother . . . she is the most obsessive-compulsive, selfish, martyred woman in the world!! She never wanted me. I was adopted at 2 days old. The reason she took me in? My father wanted a baby. She was 51 and he was 47 at the time. As I got older, people thought I looked like my dad and since my dad was not exactly faithful, she assumed I was the product of one of his affairs and he had arranged my adoption.

  Anyway, I was contantly not good enough for her. I never did anything right. I was blind to how fricken important her HOUSE was to her. The house was more important than anything or anyone. It's fricken museum. I have three other siblings. The youngest is 20 years older than me if that tells you anything. One on my father's side and three on my mother's. NONE of them liked me. They all saw me as a threat and they are just as dysfunctional as she is.

  There is a lot more to be said, but I'm going to stop here for now otherwise this will turn into a book. But let me just say, I'm bipolar, and they are more dysfunctional than I will EVER be! People consider me VERY sane and level-headed, and compared to them I apparently look like a saint. Scary, huh??

  Anyway, dysfunction definitely comes in all shapes and sizes . . . all ages . . . and it doesn't have to come with an addiction. Sometimes it's just an a$$hole gene.

  Kitty

  =^..^=

   

  I haven't lost my mind!!
  I know exactly where I put it!!

  
  

   

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  • kjoprater
  on May. 19, 2009 at 3:47 PM

• Welcome...glad to see that I am not the only one that has the @sshle gene running thru my family. Your right dysfunction comes in all shapes and sizes. My Mom never wanted me either...she had me b/c my dad wanted a baby. Her and I get along pretty good these days but that is b/c I am the only child that does not throw her past up in her face and use it as an excuse for my behavior, when in reality I am the only one that could. My brothers were her babies and could do no wrong so they never had to deal with the crap I did but they are traumatized and defective according to them. Thats why I started this group tho, I am a believer that there is ALWAYS someone who had it worse than I did and sometimes its just comforting to be able to swap stories and coping mechanisms with others. To this day our family has so much drama that we can hardly be in the same house for longer than a few minutes together. Right now out of 4 brothers I am only speaking to 2 of them, I am in the works of patching things up with one of the brothers but b/c I am best friends with his ex wife, he and his new wife are pretty much going to keep drama going when all I want them to do is leave me the hell alone.....Like I said it is always something=)

  Kelly, mommy to Bryce, Kyndal, Alayna and Rayanna
  Wife to Josh
  
  "I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." -Maya Angelou
  
  "We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anais Nin

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  • mummy24
  on May. 20, 2009 at 6:47 PM
• Hi, I'm Kyrie. I'm 23 and have 3 daughters with a 4th due in August. I'm not sure where to start when it comes to my family to be honest. Here's the basics: absent bio father, sexually abusive step father, negligent mother. drug addictions, drug dealings,domestic violence, foster care, no grand parents for my daughters!!
  I would love to be more detailed with why I think my family is dysfunctional but find it hard just opening up, however I do tend to use personal experiences as examples when trying to help/advice people. xxx

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  • CSRodriguez
  on May. 21, 2009 at 10:21 PM

• Thank   you for this group  I am Chantelle and I do not love my mother     I am hoping to be in a grou where that is ok

  

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  • EireLass
  on May. 27, 2009 at 1:42 PM

• Hi there, thank you for letting me join. I'm 51, live in MA....am the wonderful product of a dysfunctional family whom I've chosen to divorce) all except one brother. Funny how the world thought our family was EXTREMELY functional....at least it appeared on the outside. But to enter the home and personal life? Egad!! As much as I hated it, I'm thankful for it. As mentioned by others....it's made me who I am today, and made me raise my own 2 kids in a certain way. I've always felt, and still do, that those that come from a "normal family" have no clue as to how the world works. They live the life of a princess with unrealistic expectations of what life should be. And then there's us.....we've been around the block, have seen too much, and know how to watch out for those that mean the most to us.

  Thanks for letting me in!!
  

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  • kjoprater
  on May. 29, 2009 at 1:07 PM

• welcome to our little goup=)

  Kelly, mommy to Bryce, Kyndal, Alayna and Rayanna
  Wife to Josh
  
  "I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." -Maya Angelou
  
  "We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anais Nin

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