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I'm 30 weeks along now and have had a really hard time deciding whether or not to breastfeed. I breastfed my first daughter for 8 long, painful weeks. I hated every second of it. She didn't latch on correctly from the beginning which then led to cracking and bleeding. I can still feel the pain when I think about it. We had a lactation consultant come to my home and attempt to help me, but it never ended up working out. The pump only made me feel like a cow being milked. I eventually switched her to formula. From that moment on, she slept 7-8 hours straight through the night and still remains a good sleeper. I loved getting a full night's sleep and I loved watching the bond between my daughter and husband grow which I truly believe is due to the fact that he was able to participate in feeding. Also, I was worried that my daughter would catch more colds and she's only been sick (with the sniffles) twice in her life. She's extremely bright (although every parent thinks their kids are geniuses) and I was able to lose all the baby weight and then some, on my own through diet and exercise rather quickly.
I know that I need to make a decision soon, which I'm leaning more towards bottle feeding. I just feel a tremendous amount of guilt from my Dr. and I remember the nursing staff putting pressure on me as well (with my first). They make you feel almost as if formula isn't an option. With my daughter, I remember crying night after night because I felt like the biggest failure because she wouldn't latch on. My thoughts were "what kind of mother am I? I can't even feed my baby?". Now all that guilt is starting to hit me again. I realize that "breast is best" but what if I'm more comfortable with formula feeding? I'm afraid all of this anxiety over breastfeeding is going to take away from me enjoying my new baby and being a good mommy. I wish breastfeeding came naturally to me and I truly respect all the mommies who do it but I really don't think it's for me. Any advice??