how did it go for you?

[Samarasmommy127]

ok, officially I don't have 2 under 2 yet but my daughter just turned 1 on December 7th and I am almost 4 months pregnant with #2, so they will be about 18 months apart. I am worried about there being a jealousy problem with my daughter because she is so attached to SO and I. Was there a jealousy problem between anyone else's babies? and I am wondering just how difficult it is going to be to have the 2 under 2, what is everyone's experience? thank you all so much for the help I am clueless!

 

 

[marywilliams]

I can't help you yet.  Caroline will be about 18/19 months when the new baby arrives.  I guess we'll see!

[Davina7672]

I remember being nervous when I was pregnant with Jayne, my little lovely now 14-month old:)

Jayne an dBeth are 20 months apart--Beth had JUST turned one when I found out that I was expecting her sister and boy I was nervous.  Very nervous.  On top of that, had to move to a bigger house--big mistake in that one but the new one we moved to this year has more than made up for it :)  And we went through ALOT of changes;)

Beth was very jealous of her sister at first because little sister got so much ofm y time.  It helped taht my mother came out on very short notice--due to the fact that the doctor told me that I was going to go into labor "very very soon" 3 weeks before I was due and he was right, the baby came 2 1/2 weeks early.  My mother stayed for a whole month and during that month spent her time helping me with the house, with the kids--especially Beth--and just being my MOm:)  She kinda showed me the ropes and when she left, I was already starting to take my house back over;) 

Over time and learning to balance house work and time with the kids--the kids get the majority still but hubby helps with the housework still and over time it's gotten better--I also learned how to blaance time with each kid;)  Now they get a little more equal time though Jayne still gets extra time due to diaper changes and she takes longer to eat than beth does and still needs help.  I cut her food up for her and put a few bites at a time on her eating mat--she only has 1 tooth still but the second is going to cut any day now. 

And over time, Beth's jealous HAS gotten better.  Why?  Every time Jayne naps, Beth gets some special time with MOmmy;)  Sometimes I stop and read a book that Beth wants me to read to her so badly to both girls.  Sometimes, it's just because i just stop and give her hugs and kisses just because.  And for Jayne, too.  Jayne gets jealous of beth's attention too but she's also has Mommyitis really bad and we're working on it so that they don't get so jealous of who'se getting who's attention:)

It also helps that JOhn spends special time wtih Beth, more so with beth than Jayne due to the fact that Jayne generally prefers to snuggle with MOmmy though she's getting to the age where she's noticing that time with Daddy is special sine he's not home so much.

So, just remember this when the little one comes.  Don't plan on napping alot once you've recovered--most likely both won't go down at once.  Sometimes they might, but don't plan  on it particurlarly as your two year old starts heading to the age of 3:)

Plan on special activities to do with the older child when the younger one naps;)  and plan on a few special things to do with young child that maybe older child can participate or help in.  Beyond that, just take it one day at a time and cherish this time when they're little--it literally flies!

Dawn T

[momma_cita429]

Well my story is a hole lot different than the other moms who responded to youre post but its still the same in alot of ways. I have twin one year old boys and yes it is hard at times with two but it is alot of joy also. Even though they are the same age they get jelouse of each other when it comes to mommy. If one comes to give me a hug or a kiss the other one has to too. If one is talking to me the other one has to start talking to me at the same time. It can get bad real quick. My boys fight and when I say fight I mean fight. They push and hit and bite and wrestle with each other if they dont get their way. How I get my boys to calm down is I pull them apart, tell them to apologize to his brother and then I tell them to give each other a hug. After that they are back to playing with each other. Like it never happened... I just smile

[Mommy0102]

My kids are 15 months apart. I was EXTREMELY nervous about jealousy issues while I was pregnant. But, when my second daughter was born, my first was so young, I dont think she knew what it was to be jealous. She kissed her all the time. Now, they are 2-1/2 and almost 16 months and for the most part, they play together well. There are times when jealousy comes into play now, like they both want to sit on my lap at the same time. Or they both want me to play with them at the same time. But eventually, you get used to it. I won't tell you that having two little ones is not difficult... because it is. But my plan is that they can continue growing together and hopefully will be the best of friends.

[Georgie0502]

My daughter is almost 17 months and my son is 1 month. She has been in love with him since he was born. She gives him kisses and helps me burp him, change his diaper, put him to bed, etc. She even brings him his paci when he cries, even though she never used one. Of course, it's only been one month, so jealousy could set in, but so far so good. And she was extremely attached to me. She never did anything without me.

[armyjellybean]

i started babysitting newborns so dd got used to seeing babies only problem we had was her getting used to the baby not leaving and since i breastfeed she cant sit in my lap like she used to but she adjusted i try to spend as time with her when the baby is nappin or ill play with them together mine are 14 months apart

[Jamie-Leigh]

 There are 22 months between my daughters. I have to say Cadence handles her sister pretty well. She calls her MY sissy. She isn't to bad about being jealous, it happens some but I consider myself really lucky that when she gets that way she gets upset at me and not her sister. She doesn't try to hit or kick or be mean to Melody. Sometimes she will cry and tell me to "put sissy down" or to pick her up instead. But truthfully for a child who was used to being the center of every one's attention (cause she was the only baby in the immediate family) she has done great!

[ingrid198]

DS was 21 mos when DD was born i thought for sure there would be issues but he LOVED his baby as soon as we brought her home he was so attentive and wanted to help and hold her all the time. it was so sweet. now she is 14 mos and he will be 3 next week and they get along so well its amazing!

some tips for preparation with new baby i used were to have DS hold a baby doll and pretend it was real,  practice holding her and putting her to bed and that helped a lot. also we started referring to DD as HIS baby, he liked that a lot :]