In watching the Dr. Phil show today on abusive relationships it brought back too many memories of the relationship with my ex of verbal and emotional abuse while i was pregnant with our son (which is why we broke up) and again once he was born and back in our lives. It has been a little over a year since we have had a confrontation to that scale, a few misunderstandings and arguments but nothing that has left be truely shaken or upset like he used to. His "new" personality seems too good to be true, he seems more like the guy i knew before things went sour. I don't know if it's a front or if he is in a better place now but i keep the guard up with him because i'm never sure if he's really this "nice" guy he's been portraying himself as. My now husband stood up to him one night because we were talking and he became enraged and puffed out his chest and got in my face, screaming. My husbnd shut him down and there haven't been any problems that paramount since ( with the exception of this past april when he claimed our son as HIS dependent even though i said NO, he lives with me full time and only visits him once a week)
Things have been more pleasant in recent months but i'm still very skeptical of his behavior. he makes it seem like what happened in the past was something that should be easily forgiven and forgotten and he claims he is a different person.i fear that despite the recent lack of abusive behavior that its one bad disagreement away. And even if not there is still back handed manipulation and then the "im so innocent, i dont know what you're talking about" front. what do you think??
Ing
I think you are right to be skeptical. Men who are truly domestic violence perps don't just change suddenly. I'm not saying that it isn't possible. I just think it doesn't happen often and usually not with out some intensive therapy. So I would be pretty hesitant.
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- ingrid198
on Sep. 8, 2010 at 4:24 PM