When you first told everyone you were expecting again, what kind of reactions did you get? We haven't "officially" told anyone yet. We are waiting until my mom gets into town tomorrow night and after we tell her, we will tell the rest of my family and the in-laws. We told my MIL first last time so my husband decided it would be only fair to tell my mom first this time.
I know my family will be happy, shocked, but happy. His family as well. I'm just not sure how friends will react. My SD's bio-mom will freak out but we aren't even telling her. We are waiting until we have SD for a full week (probably first week in August) to tell her so BM can't interfere too much so early on.
We got the " It hought you guys would wait until he was older" thing.
I was shocked to find out myself so I braced everyone for the news before I told them by saying "You are not going to believe this but we are pregnant." I was totally worried and freaking out so I was not even paying attention to what anyone else was thinking.
For me both sides were kind of rude to me when I found out I was pregnant again. The only two who didn't seem to mind/care was my Husband and FIL he was the only two that seemed to understand that things happen.
~*~Amanda~*~
Married To Doug Mother To Zoey Bridgette
April. 04, 2009 July 20, 2007 December 21, 2008
Everyone was really happy, my hubby and I had been married for 7 years when we had our first dd so we started trying right away after she was born our girls are 19 months apart but I did get the reactions from people that I did not even know and they would ask me if I was crazy and I would just say with a smile yes I am a little crazy, and keep walking. lol
Basically everyone said "I thought you guys wanted to wait a few years?"
Everyone was surprised and some people were very rude! My sister and sister in-law are both very jealous! My sister in-law is 37 and my sister is 30. Neither of them wanted children until I was pregnant with my daughter. Now they both want to have kids asap. My sister in-law actually said, "congratulations, I guess"! My sister just gave me a a hard time about it. I could understand if they were upset, because we couldn't afford it, but my husband makes a great living for us. I actually wrote my sister a letter explaining the whole reason we decided to get married after dating eight years was to start a family. At least our parents were thrilled.
I also got a lot of negative responses, many left me feeling insulted and at one point early on I felt ashamed and irresponsible. I had to reassure myself that I'm a grown woman who can have 3 under 3 if I very well please. I always admired women with all of her little duckilings in a row. Who knew people could be so rude about it. I have to say though, most of the negative comments came from people who were clearly jealous. Regardless, it hurt and left me insecure right after I gave birth to him and my emotions were all out of whack. My kids will be one and two this month.
I didn't really get that bad of reactions except for one of SO's aunts said "don't they know sex causes pregnancy?" duh of course we know! I am almost 13 weeks along with my second and my daughter turned 1 about week ago they will be 18 months apart, but we actually planned it that way. my mom just said are you ready, and my dad was thrilled he said, maybe a boy this time. SO's parents were thrilled too their first 2 are 17 months apart so no judging there. his brother didn't believe us until his mom said "uh ya I saw the sonogram and she is already starting to show!" it's kind of funny but everyone tells me it is a litle easier this way, we wil find out won't we?
well, my side of the family was thrilled, but my mother wa slike "I thought you were using birth control?" i had to remind her that, due to family history, using hormone pills was out and since she had recommended against the iud at that time, though she pushed it after the baby was born, we were relying on condoms.
and since I'm allergic to latex, that meant vinyl which leak or break nearly every time. yay trojans--too bad it says right on the box that it's not 100%:)
anyway she was thrilled though. my h ubby's parents were thrilled, his brother was thrilled, one of his sisters was thrilled but the rest just kinda treated as a "yeah okay been there done that" and that was it. and when the baby came, none of them came to the hospital except my mother andf ather in law and my hubby and my mother. oh and the one sister and her kids because she was now a godmother;)
the other 3 sisters just called and said congrats, but 1 did come over about a week after we were home. then we saw the other two at the christening but not before that. it also didn't help that the baby chose to come right on the anniversary of my fifth sister-in-law's death--she had died a year to the day before the baby was born. and I think that contributed to the negative reactions--it literally seemed to me that they blamed me for the baby coming on theat day--my water broke adn I had not tried to induce labor. in fact, I was taking it easy trying to delay labor a little longer. I even delayed going to teh hospital as long as I could with the hope that i could hold out at least until huby came home for lunch.
not to be--contractions picked up quick and i had to call hubby and tell him to come home.
it doesn't bother me so much anymore, but to this day one of my neices still doesn't acknowledge my second baby and now won't even look at my first little one--but she and I have never gotten along so I just shrug and go on with my life. however, she's getting married next year and well, we'll see if we decide to got oh er wedding. we probably will just because hubby and I are more mature tahn she is,b ut I guarantee you that my kiddos will both be there and dressed nicely and behaving nicely also if we do. but we'll see--depends on when she has this wedding :sighs::
whomever also had negative reactions, just remember ya can't please everyone so just go for pleasing yourself;)
well my my family was happy but my stbx husbands family is a different story his mom said what the f**k u do that for but finial came around to the fact and his dad was happy and his sister but not really just acted that way in front of us and then would talk behind our backs and stuff and as far as his ex wife went she was pissed off because she couldn't have anymore because her hubby got fixed (after he cheated on her to get several other women prego)
- marywilliams
on Jul. 8, 2009 at 7:32 PM