Soooo Tired...vent...kinda long
So I am really tired of my mom bad-mouthing my husband. It seems like she has a real attitude about him lately. She made the comment that he introduced me to drugs..well thats true..but he didn't force them down my throat..and if it wasn't him it would have been someone else..that's just where I was in my life at the time. This man has delt with so much of my shit..and he's stayed with me through it all. He stayed with me after I cheated on him..more than once. He stayed with me after I bankrupted us TWICE!! He works SO hard every day..and I put it all up my nose..everything that he worked for..POOF..gone! And then he left everything he knew..his family..his job..to come with me and fix things and give it another shot. And even though it was my fault..he didn't make me go to work. He has always been there for me..he has always taken care of me and our girls..he ALWAYS puts us first. He never buys stuff for himself..but he will for us all day long. No, he is not perfect. He does have a very bad temper, but would never hurt me or the girls. We all make mistakes. But he stayed with me through every single one of mine, and forgave me and still loved me...and they have the nerve to imply anything bad about him. My mom asks constantly if i'm ok..if he puts his hands on me..makes snide little remarks about his personality..and just the general tone of her voice is condesending. And I love this man with every fiber of my being..so today I sent her an email and told her all this. Normally thats not me, I don't like confrontation..at all. I don't like drama..so I usually just keep my mouth shut and grin and bear it..but I basically just said she could talk bad about him all she wants I just dont want to hear it anymore. I'm not going to be a party to it. And put my foot down about a few rules when my daughter goes over there...I am so proud of myself. It feels good to stand up for yourself sometimes. My mom came over to pick up my daughter a little while ago and didn't say very much to me..she spent most of the time outside..so whatever. I'm sure it will blow over...but I had it..I won't put up with her talking smack about the man who saved me more times than I care to remember..he is an amazing husband and an even more amazing father. They might not like some of the life choices we've made for OUR family...but they do have to deal with it. It is OUR family..we are 2 married adults..and will raise our family as such..and they can disagree with our parenting style and religion choice all they want..they can't change it, so why be miserable and hold a grudge about it. And why think that I just blindly follow him. They think if he wasn't in the picture that things wouldn't be this way..that I would do what they want. They think he controls me and my choices. Even if i wasn't married to him...I feel how I feel about parenting, has nothing to do with my husband..and I feel how I feel about religion and it has nothing to do with him...he influenced me in NO way. So I made all this perfectly clear..and said that I wanted it to stop. So we'll see what happens I guess. It's just not me...i'm always worried about what everyone else thinks..and if i hurt anyones feelings...and I realized that sometimes I have to worry about my feelings..and it deeply offends me when ANYONE talks bad about my hubbs. They have NO EARTHLY idea what that man has put up with for me..to be with me. So they have NO room to talk or pass judgement. So I finally stuck up for myself...hopefully it works out!