Okay, so I am not actually pregnant yet, but we are hoping to be soon. I am a super-planner...I like to know what I am doing well ahead of time so I know what to be prepared for.
My first pregnancy ended in a still birth at 5 1/2 months. My second was a week early because he had gotten so big that he was compressing my lungs to the point that I was having extreme breathing issues. I was concerned with how much I was having to use an inhaler and the effect it would have on him. So, a week early my doctor decided to induce labor. Turns out, if she hadn't induced, I wouldn't have gone into labor at all. My hips are shaped oddly and the way they turn, unless I have a teeny tiny baby (we're talking under 6lbs) a baby simply will not come down. My hip bones block the head. Because of this issue, I had to have a c-section and will have to have them for all future births. My son was 9lbs 4oz and 22inches lol he was a big boy!
Anyway, since I know I will be having a c-section that part is pretty much taken care of. However, I was wondering what I could request of the hospital, and how to implement some guidelines for the nurses, for after the birth. For instance, I plan on going with cloth diapers. I'm not sure if I should start that at the hospital (I would like to, but I realize that means hand washing diapers in a sink for several days and I am not sure if it is wise) and request that the nurses put the baby only in the diapers I provide, or allow the disposables while there. Also, I do NOT want the baby fed with a bottle or any formula or given a pacifier. I am not willing to comprimise on that unless the baby has to be taken to NICU for some reason. I also do not want the baby out of mine or my husband's sight...not with how many times you hear about mix-ups and people attempting to kidnap.
So my question is, how do I make these things known to the hospital staff without coming off as a demanding bitch...because I'm really not. I just want a few basic things. I will never get to experience a natural birth so there are those few things that I want to be firm about for my child's benefit. The bottle is the most important. Last time around, they gave my son a bottle of formula while giving him his first wash down. I was not happy because I wanted him SOLELY breastfed. I know a little formula didn't hurt him, and he latched on like a champ and we had no issues (though he quit BF at 6 weeks for some reason).
Sorry this was so long, but I would really appreciate some advice on implementing some sort of after-birth plan. The hospital and staff are wonderful and pretty much open to anything. I love the nurses and OBs at the center I am using. They suggested I have a plan in writing for them to put in my file when the time comes, I am just not sure how to go about it. Thanks ladies!!