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Posted by on Aug. 2, 2009 at 6:02 PM
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First off, I'd like to welcome you to the group!

My name is Em, I'm a 31 year old SAHM to two great boys. DW will be 5 at the end of November and JD will be a year old this month! I also have a 10 year old stepson, who will be 11 at the end of October. I've been with my husband now for almost 8 years (I think! lol).

I had my tubes "tied" during an emergency c-section with my last son. Because I was breast feeding (which is another thing I'd been having issues with), I didn't have a period until my son was 5 months old. They were odd at first but, I thought all periods are after a baby.

Suddenly, my periods that were ALWAYS regular - on time, bleeding the same amount and the same number of days - were a week or two early (so I was having 2 a month). They started going from 3 -4 days to a week and a half. The bleeding was incredible compared to my regular periods and while I'd occasionally have cramps now and again, these were almost comparable, pain wise, to labor.

I'd always had occasions of PMS but, what I've been experiencing now....

I went from being grouchy to completely out of control! I have these rages that I cannot seem to control. I actually kicked my husband in the leg one weekend!!! I felt so awful about it and was so embarrassed. If I wasn't screaming, yes - kicking, or throwing things, I am crying. Not just occasional tears either. I would cry and do cry for days on end now! If it's not any of that, it's almost flat out depression! And at night.....I don't think I can crank the air down low enough!!

What hurts me the most about all this, is two things. One - I'm only 31 and experiencing perimenopausal symptoms and two - NO ONE told me about this before hand. I might've chosed this same thing but, I would've liked to have been able to make this decision with all the information. Now, I cannot afford to go in to get a reversal.

Anyway, I thought I'd share my story with you all and I cannot wait to get to know all of you. Please share your story too. We all may or may not experience this in similar fashions and you don't know who it could help to see your story.


The sad side of things

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by on Aug. 2, 2009 at 8:04 PM

Hi!  My name is Elizabeth.  I had a tubal in 04 when my daughter was a few months old (she was born early), and I was pressured into getting the tubal done by mom.  Anyways, I have nothing but problems since having it done - I so wished I would have never gotten it done and like others I cannot afford the tubal reversal either.  I have pain almost all the time, my periods are not regular at all - they are all over the calendar.

by Group Owner on Aug. 2, 2009 at 8:18 PM
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Welcome to the group Elizabeth, I hope that you can find some sense of sanity here. I wish that I'd never had mine done either and I commend you for having gone so long with this. I don't know if I could've gone that long alone. Most people think you're full of crap when you tell them because they've never heard of this. So, to go this long, you're a stronger woman than me, I might have killed someone before then!! :)

Hope you find comfort in this group.


by on Aug. 2, 2009 at 8:33 PM

Hi my name is Melina. I had a tubal litigation this past march after having a emergency c-section to deliver my twin boys. I honestly thought that I was loosing it until I read a post about this. I have been having severe migranes 2 periods a month mood swings and hot flashes. I have also been getting depressed. I also regret having the procedure done and can not afford to get it reversed. I have 6 beautiful boys 13, 10, 2 1/2, 1 1/2, and premature identical twin boys.

by Group Owner on Aug. 2, 2009 at 8:41 PM

Welcome to the group. I felt the same way the last several months. I kept asking various people, telling them something was wrong. The doctors kept telling me it was stress. Then several other women told me about this and I didn't believe it but, kept researching anyway. Still posted questions and asked questions for months to every person I could think of.

When I finally listened and talked to a doctor via email, I felt shocked, mad and completely hopeless. I couldn't actually find anyone who has or is going through this. Which made me feel worse. So, I took my anger and created this group so that I could talk about the craziness and not have other mothers be freaking out over my thoughts, actions or feelings.

I'm glad you found the post and joined us here. I hope you find this group to be a welcoming place.


by on Aug. 7, 2009 at 12:19 PM


 My name is Eileen and I had my tubes tied after my youngest son was born almost 13 years ago. Since then I get cramps on the sides and pains in my back. Doctors blow me off. They dont believe its real. I have also gone thorough depression, anxiety and panic attacks.

 I'm glad to have been invited to this group.



by Group Owner on Aug. 7, 2009 at 5:46 PM

Welcome Eileen!

I know about the doctor thing. My OBGYN had in passing mentioned something about having issues after having tubes tied but, when I pressed him about it before, he said that women often experience a kind of depression that comes from making the decision itself. He never metioned anything about the physical or insanity that comes from this as well.

When I called him after all this started, he just told me that some things can change after a child - NO DUH, this ain't my first rodeo! After repeated calls the last few months, he finally said something aobut it maybe being something he'd heard of called PTLS. Although, he refuses to discuss it, said it was a pyschological issue!!! GRRR

Anyway, welcome to the group. I hope you like it here. Please feel free to offer any suggestions as to what you'd like to see here and please just jump right in!!!


by on Aug. 8, 2009 at 4:06 PM

Hi Em,

  Thanks for the welcome. Nice to know I am not alone. my husband wants to go with me to my next doctor's appointment because the last few months on cycle have been really bad. I  know all these dr's think its all in our head. If I could have afforded a reversal I would have but thats not proboblr money wise. My last ob- gyn wanted me to go on the pill. but refused when I asked for a ultrasound or laporoscopy. I at least want to know how bad the tubes are and what kind of damage have been done.

 I wish we could get some relief. I can't think of anything besides a reversal and I'm almost 42 now so I'm getting to old I think and i couldn't afford it but I am glad for the support.



by on Nov. 17, 2009 at 2:09 PM

Hi, my name is Cherry. I had my tubes tied last year after the birth of my daughter. It was a repeat c-section with my third child and although a few people warned us about side effects, everything we read and  our doctor said there were no risks. We felt that our family was complete and went through with it. I breastfeed my daughter, so i did not start having periods till a few months ago. I have always had heavy periods but these are so bad i don't like leaving the house. They last at least a week and i have horrible cramps. I also have horrible PMS, which i did not have before i had my tubes tied. My libido has been zero, to the dismay of my husband. And i have been feeling really tired all the time, which is not like me at all. More emotional and unstable and anxious, when normally I am a happy, easy going person. At first i had no idea what was going on with me, and having no health insurance, i couldn't afford to go to the doctor. One night i was just sitting in my chair, i just had a thought to look up the side effects from tubal ligation. When i read them, i almost started crying. It was such a relief to know that there are so many other women going through this too. And that i was not crazy, but had a real health problem. Even if doctors do not recognize it, i know that we women who experience it know that it is real. Just that realization made me feel better.

Life is a journey, not a destination, so you might as well have fun

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 11:28 PM
Hi my name is Sandy. I'm new to the group and signed up looking for others that are going through the same thing. I'm hoping this group is still active. Last post appeared to be in 2011. About a year ago. I had my tubes tied August 2010 after my fourth c-section and like some I did it only bc I wasnt sure if I could go through a 5th c-section and a fifth cut to my uterus. I have heard horror stories of uterus rupturing etc. So I decided to get them tied. Like all of you I didn't know what was going on until I was sitting at home one day, 2nd day of my cycle, cramping and crying and very stressed out and I started thinking. My periods were bad, but never this bad. I thought the blood clots were from the surgery at first. Or the fact I stopped breast feeding. But why was I THIS emotionally upset? And then it dawned on me. I had my tubes tied. So I started looking up blood clots after tubal ligation and it brought me to PTLS. At that time, it was the first time I had ever thought this was what was causing all the symptoms. Extemely painful cramps on monthly cycle, blood clots the size of golf balls soaking through a super plus tampon and an overnight pad in an hour, hot flashes, chills, night sweats, depression, anxiety, panic, unexplained crying, fatigue, sharp pains on either side of my stomach in my pelvic region. The overwhelming feeling that something terrible is going to happen. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. I'm really a laid back person and i am usually relaxed. Now- the smallest things bother me. I have warned my fiancรฉ ahead of time not to even say anything to me that time of the month. He doesn't really understand. How can he. He's a man. There's no room for empathy or sympathy with men. He is however being supportive in the decision to have it reversed. I have called 5 doctors so far. Two Obgyns, two fertility doctors, and one or two specialists that focuses on just doctor told me I didn't need a reversal, it was in my head, that I just needed to treat the symptoms. She also mentioned menopause. Another doc called me today and was interested in viewing my medical records and operative reports. It is going to cost $6900 cash. It's not something I have the money for but I have to either get a loan or save up for it. I'm hoping by the time I have the money, that it's not too late. I just wish this was covered under insurance or something. This is something a doctor causes. Shouldn't they be responsible for telling you everything that will happen before they do it? And if they knew and didn't tell you, shouldn't they be held liable? Just a thought. I know it will never get anywhere. I can't see a lawsuit for something if they can't even, won't even recognize it as an actual health problem. I can see so many women having divorces over this. I had a separation only a month after I had my last child. Everyone tried to say I had ppd
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by on Sep. 18, 2012 at 8:31 AM
Hello I am Tausha. I am a SAHM of 3 boys, ages 8, 3, and 17 months. I had the tubal the day after I delivered my son. That was April 6, 2011. The first few months was alright. Now I have irregular periods which can vary from light to extremely heavy, terrible cramps, constant headaches, awful dreams (death dreams of leaving my children motherless and in the hands of my MIL), Constant hot flashes. I feel broken. I am horribly moody and cry at the drop of a dime. So much more. Iam now looking into going back to the doctors to seek help. A reversal is out of the question right now. But if I knew what I knew now when I was thinking of this last year I would have let DH get snipped like he offered. I figured I was in the hospital already I might as well do it. The doctor never discussed anyhing with me. Just had me sign consent forms by 30 weeks. I wish I had researched a lil more but I know now and hope to help others know the side effects so they can make an informed choice.
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