help! my lymph node has trippled in size

[sonyarizzo1]

I am so angry that I want to scream! When my single lump was discovered I was told by two ob gyns, a radiologist, and a surgeon that my lump was not cancer and probably just a benign tumor called a fibroadenoma. My surgeon gave me two options. I could do a needle biopsy or a surgical biopsy which would remove it. I chose the surgical biopsy because I read about how horrible the needle biopsy is. I think I made the wrong decision! And what's worse, I think its an option that the Dr shouldn't have offered me. It turned out to be cancer. And my surgery was only a month ago. Since I was opened up, there are two new lumps in that breast and a lymph node under my arm that seems to grow daily. I blame the surgery. It some how disrupted the cancer and made it rapidly grow. I have a double mastectomy planned for next week. And becasue the tumor was removed they can't do a sentinal node biopsy. I have to have a.bunch of nodes blindly removed. Also if I had been told to do a needle biopsy instead it would hav e saved me that extra surgery and I probably could have done the double mastectomy before the cancer had a chance to spread to my lymph nodes. I want to sue all of the drs who told me this was not cancer. And who wrongly guided me. I'm only 35 years old. What if their misjudgement means that this whole thing has already spread to other parts of my body? I have two small children. What if this all means that I won't be here for them after this fight? I don't know what to do. I know I can't change the past, but I can't shake this feeling that someone really messed up here. And I'm going to pay for it with my life.

[shadenn766]

i'm sorry to hear about all of this...try to relax and stay focused so that you can hold on to your sanity because you need to make sound decisions for yourself... also talk to the surgeons and oncologist to see what treatment plan they have for you

as for the docs that gave you the info initially i cant say if a mistake was made or not (that may be a med/ legal issue) the nodes may have been there and were too small  to be detected during surgery...the outcome may be the same if they were detected /removed now or initially ..again i dont know thats only a possibility thats why i mentioned to consult with the surgeon and oncologist about what the next step will be

with the lump seemingly growing daily did they mention that it could be fluid retention? and not the actual lump changing in size... ask them

i do understand your fear anger and disappointment...hang in there stay prayerful and remain focused and most of all think happy thoughts...

check your mailbox...i sent you an email...

 

[vell]

so sorry to hear that you are going through so much. i will keep you in my prayers.