For those that don't know me, we just moved 2 hours away from our home town due to DH new job. We just recently started to visit a new church. Everyone seems friendly. But one family is really giving me the creeps. It's so bad, DD#2 doesn't want to go back. It is mostly the father. We've been going for about a month. We try to attend as many church functions as time allows. One reason for this is so that my girls will have every opportunity possible to make friends. They were very close to their friends at our old church. This man goes out of his way to literally push his daughter on my girls. It's borderline abusive. Last night we had a movie night. His daughter was sitting behind my girls on the floor. He physically shoved her forward so she was within a few inches of DD#2. The girl protested and scooted back a little. He does this every chance he gets.
The other strange thing is he keeps claiming he's never met me. He comes up and grabs your hand, pulls you toward him and greets you. He always says, "Hi! I beleive we have'nt met!" I remind him that we have met and that my DD#3 is in his Sunday school class.
Last, but not least, he stares at us during church service! How do I know? We sit in the back. He turns around and watches us. I told my husband about it last Sunday. He thought I was nuts until he saw it for himself this Sunday.
What would you do?
wow! Well At first I was just thinking that he wanted to make sure his daughters were trying to be friends with yours but as I read on It seems like he is a bit flirtatious with you. I would have your hubby have a calm talk with him. Like have him say that your sure that he is just an outgoing and funny guy but for you those things come of very inappropriate. That what I would have my hubby do. Is this guy an elder or anything in the church? If yes, then I would talk with the pastor about your concerns. Hope it all stops soon!
Quoting viking95:
He is not an elder. But he is my daughters SS teacher. Come to find out, he is hearing impaired. But that didn't explain the staring. So we talked to our SS leaders. They said he does lack social graces and does not really respect others boundaries.
I am sorry but if they know he doesnt respect other peoples boundries why is he a SS teacher? Can you look at other churches...
Quoting tericared:
Quoting viking95:
He is not an elder. But he is my daughters SS teacher. Come to find out, he is hearing impaired. But that didn't explain the staring. So we talked to our SS leaders. They said he does lack social graces and does not really respect others boundaries.
I am sorry but if they know he doesnt respect other peoples boundries why is he a SS teacher? Can you look at other churches...
While I agree that he shouldn't be teaching SS, if you leave a church every time there is a weird person, you will run out of churches! I would just keep your distance without being mean. If everything about the church is good for your family except that guy I would try to make it work.
This forum!!!
- viking95
on Jan. 18, 2010 at 11:53 AM